Swing Shift Volume 7- Dropping Out

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Aug 092009

A few weeks ago Amorous Rocker e-mailed us and asked for our thoughts on dropping out of the lifestyle. I can’t find her original message, so I can’t quote it here and hope I’m not messing up the intent of her original message. AR, if I did, please e-mail or comment and I’ll fix the mistake.

Veronica and I have maintained that as long as we’re having fun and it’s not more work that it’s worth, we’ll stay in the lifestyle. Of course, if at any time if there is even an inkling that our marriage is suffering because of our involvement with others, we’ll stop. Our relationship is infinitely more important than our relationships with others.

One thing that may force us to stop, at least for a while, is the kids. Right now, we are fortunate that the kids are young enough, and the layout of our house is such that we’re perfectly happy hosting another couple at our house. We have a finished basement and the kids rooms are up one floor and on the opposite end of the house. So if one of them would wake up while we have playmates over, one of us could throw on clothes and intervene before they discover mommy riding someone other than daddy

Someday, however, that is going to change. We’ll have to either find playmates that can host, use hotel rooms, go to swinger parties, or drop out. Those limitations may make it so that it’s more work then fun, so we’ll stop. But as we have always maintained, swinging is a fun and pleasurable addition to our already great sex life. If the swinging part of our sex life goes away, I think we’ll manage

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And with that, we are out of questions from our readers, at least I think so. If you sent me a question and I missed it, please resend it and accept my apology. I’d like to keep this column going each week, but won’t force it. If I don’t have any questions, it’ll go away until I do. So don’t be shy, leave a question in the comments section. And if you’re shy but still want to ask something, e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com and I’ll keep your identity anonymous when I publish my answer.

Hope everyone has a good start to the work week…

photo(23) (Veronica send this to me Sunday evening…)

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http://www.sexyatforty.com Sexy @ Forty

My bf and I were actually thinking about giving it up – but we have not even started yet! lol. But, I have so many questions and thoughts on the subject, that he worries I might not want to continue. I think I do. I am just one of those people that over analyze everything!

http://hubmanshangout.wordpress.com/ hubman38

I think it’s good that you’re taking your time and talking about it with your bf- to me, that shows that you’re not just blindly jumping into it but instead are thoughtfully considering it and how it might affect you and him. It took Veronica and I almost 4 months from when we first started talking about it to even going to a swingers party.

You have questions? And why aren’t you sharing them with me?

http://www.sexyatforty.com Sexy @ Forty

Thanks! Blindly jumping into things has never been my style.. lol. I’m a big chicken! We have been talking about it off and on for a few years though, and we still never went to a swingers party or anything. Who knows, maybe we are content just talking about it..

As for questions… Sheesh, I got a ton! Would not even know where to begin!

http://www.sexyptamom.blogspot.com Grace

We stopped entirely for probably 8 years, and it just wasn’t a problem. Since then, we have eased back into it as babysitters became easier to get. BTW, it took us 3 years of going to swing parties (one per year for 3 years) before we actually met anyone we liked or really had anything happen. So I’d say you guys must be WAY more outgoing than we were.
http://deweyssystem.blogspot.com/ Dewey

I always tell my kids to stop growing up. It’s too bad we can’t do anything about it . Good luck in making your adjustments, and we’ll stay tuned to see how it all works out.