Swing Shift Volume 12- Certifications

Last week we received the following e-mail:

Hub and Veronica,

We think that a good future topic for the Swing Shift column (which we read weekly) would be your thoughts on Certs as they call them on SLS. What they mean, one versus a ton, writing them, etc.

Thanks!

They asked, we answer…

To our knowledge, “Certifications” are a feature unique to SwingLifestyle, as Swappernet and Adult Friend Finder do not offer anything comparable.  If anyone knows of any other sites that have a similar feature, please let us know.  [NOTE: As the lovely Ms. Inconspicuous notes in her comment, Lifestyle Lounge has something they call the "Real Deal".  Thanks, Ms.  I!!  And it's nice to see you again!]

The guidelines from the SLS website are:

Please, only certify another user if you actually physically know them. You have met them in person (BOTH of them if it’s a couple). Please attach a comment to this certification. The comment will be reviewed by the user you are certifying and then attached to their profile.

First of all, the guidelines are confusing to us, asking for a comment, because the comment IS the certification!  But that’s besides the point.  Certifications can take many forms, though I think this couple’s certs provides a good example of what you can expect to see:

What you’ll never see on SLS are negative comments, because for certs to appear on someone’s profile, the owners of the profile must approve it.  And who would approve a negative comment of themselves?

So that’s what a cert is, what about our thoughts on them? Veronica, your turn…

I personally like the certs.  It’s usually a good way of guaranteeing that the couple contains a man AND a woman and that these people have actually had sex with others and are not just dabblers.  Couples without women and dabblers can be a big time suck and since Hubman and I have work, children and other responsibilities, time wasters are BIG pet peeves for us.

I also like certs as it is a nice way to find other couples that you might be compatible with.  Think of it as the “Customers who bought X on Amazon also bought Y”.    If you find a couple attractive and a good match, chances are that some of the other people they have fucked would also be a good fit for you.  There is also the possibility that if you hit it off with a couple who knows a couple, perhaps a six-some can be in the works.  [Hubman: Now THERE is some optimism!]

How many certifications should you have?  I think that a couple should have at least one for the reasons mentioned above.  However, if a person had dozens and dozens of certifications, I might not be as interested.   I know for some that the purpose of swinging is to have as much sex as possible with as many different people as possible, but for Hubman and I, our major goal is to have a few couples that we play with on a regular basis.  If someone is playing with lots of people, are they really going to have the time and inclination to develop a more involved relationship with us?  Probably not.

I asked our first couple B&K about certs.  They told me that their limit was three.  Enough so people would know that they’re serious, but not so many as people would think that they are total whores.

So do Veronica and I have any certs? Funny you should ask, because we did have one, but it went away.  After we had our little getaway with Southern Vixen last January, she was kind enough to write a certification for us.  But several months later, she deleted her account on SLS.  Since certs link back to whoever wrote it, when the writer deletes their account, any certs they wrote are deleted as well.

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Veronica and I are toying with the idea of expanding the scope of Swing Shift.  Apparently there are some readers who we’ve managed to fool into believing that we have a pretty solid relationship, so we thought we’d offer to also take general, non-swinging-specific, relationship questions.  As always, questions and comments can be left in the comments section or you can e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.

Hope your week gets off to a good start!

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