Restraints

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Oct 312009
 

Veronica told me she wanted some under-the-bed restraints for her birthday.  Who am I to disappoint her?

Friday evening she was running some errands, so I took the opportunity to move the mattress and arrange the straps

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Soon after the kids were asleep, she found herself facedown and at my mercy.  She said she could free herself if she really wanted to.  But she didn’t want to…

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I finished the night by taking her ass.  Yes, there are pictures of that.  No, you can’t see them.  Yet…

If anyone is interested in the restraints, click here to see what I bought for her.  Now we’ll have to wait and see if she wants to turn the tables and have her way with me.  I’d like it if she does….

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My Bookshelf

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Oct 302009
 

A couple of weeks ago I saw a post on The Quest for T in which she shared some pictures of her bookshelf, with the idea that you can learn a lot about a person by the books they read.

I’ve always been a reader.  Right now there are 3 books on the night stand and between Veronica and I there are 4 mostly full, wall-height bookcases in the house.  Some shelves have kids books, others have Veronica’s books, and some I going to show you here and mention a few favorite books.  FYI, click on each of the pictures to see larger versions in a new window.

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Obviously, I’m a fan of biographies.  Some I’ve read because I was curious about the person (Howard Hughes, Winston Churchill), others because on current events (John McCains two autobiographies, as well as Ricardo Sanchez’).  Other books I have because of the author- David Halberstam and Stephan Ambrose are two favorite historians.  The small, old prayer book laying on top of the pile on the right was given to my great-grandfather by his pastor and the inscription is dated 1908.  Just behind that is “Moby Dick”, which I’ve never read and have no idea where I got it from.  You ever wonder why there is a left/liberal bias in academia and science?  Just read “The Republican War on Science”. See the two books laying down in the upper left?  “The Threesome Handbook” and “The Straight Girls Guide to Sleeping with Chicks”.  As if you needed any more proof that Veronica and I are geeks who read up on something before trying it.  I think they were helpful ;-)

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I’m also a big sports fan, as this shelf will attest to.  Some of these will not make it if/when we move again, while others are great reads- Lance Armstrong’s autobiography and “Game of Shadows” come to mind.  I’m fascinated by exploration, especially to geographic extremes and “Last Climb”, “Ghosts of Everest” and “Detectives on Everest” are all about George Mallory’s failed attempt to summit Mt. Everest in 1923.  Just to the left of those 3 is “The Endurance” which is the story of Sir Ernest Shackleton and his crew’s attempt to reach the South Pole in 1913.  They were stranded in Antartica for over a year and their story is perhaps the most amazing tale of survival I’ve ever read.  Part of the story is that the expedition photographer insisted on carrying all of his lead photographic plates for posterity- many of his pictures are reproduced in this book.  His pictures are stunning.

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I do have a light side too, you know!  Notice the Bloom County, Calvin and Hobbes, Dilbert, and The Far Side books?  Also on this shelf is my high school yearbook, a history of my undergraduate alma mater, and a set of National Geographic books that my parents bought for me that I saved for my kids.  “The Big Dig” I totally forgot to show Southern Vixen when she was here, after we returned from showing her around Boston last Sunday.  Oops…

Speaking of SoVix, did you see her HNT yesterday?  There was someone with her you might recognize ;-)

Have a great weekend everyone!  Veronica is taking PP to New York for my sister’s baby shower and DB and I are staying home.  So if you see me online late at night, won’t you keep me company and say hi?  Thanks!

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HNT Trick or Treat Edition

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Oct 292009
 

I don’t typically get dressed up for Halloween, it just never appealed to me.  Then a few years ago Veronica got this shirt for me, which I break out one day a year.  She takes the kids trick-or-treating while I stay home and pass out treats to any kids who come to our door.

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Will you find a trick or a treat?

Veronica is getting one more week out of our trip to Las Vegas.  Visit Osbasso to see who else is getting (more or less) half-nekkid and go to The Other HNT is you prefer NSFW nekkidness.

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It's the shoes!

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Oct 282009
 

When Veronica broke out her new shoes last weekend, Southern Vixen was practically salivating.  In fact, she even threatened to take them home with her!  Fortunately, we thwarted her efforts ;-)

I like when Veronica wears high heels.  Sure, the shoes are sexy and she looks great in them, but with our height difference, it makes fucking while standing so much easier.  See?

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I’d like to thank the shameless Britni, who tweeted about these shoes a while back and inspired Veronica to get them.  If you follow me on Twitter, you got a preview of these shoes before we went out last Saturday night.

HNT will be up at midnight eastern time.

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Musings On Health Care Reform

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Oct 282009
 

A month or so ago I put up a quick post about health care with a list that I stole from another blog and commented at the end of the post that I might occasionally write about politics and current events.  Consider yourself warned…

I’m a big fan of Gregg Easterbrook, who writes Tuesday Morning Quarterback on ESPN.com.  His column is a mix of really smart football analysis and whatever misc topics are on his mind on any given week.  If you look at the comments, there are often readers who chastise him for writing about anything other than football, but I actually like that about him.  This week, one of those misc topics was health care reform [scroll about 1/2 way down the page if the rest of his column doesn't interest you and look for "Why not standard pricing?"].  Among other things, he had this to say:

Think about a radically different way to attain health care — in which most people carry only catastrophic-cost insurance, then pay other health costs themselves. No one can budget for a severe illness or injury; every family will always need insurance against catastrophic medical expense. Suppose insurance covered only catastrophes, and you paid the rest. You might think, “No way I am paying some doctor hundreds of dollars to set a broken arm.” But today a typical family’s health care policy that appears to cost the family $5,000 a year actually costs $15,000, it’s just that much of the money is hidden as employer’s costs — and thus, as higher wages the employer can’t pay. If you spent $5,000 a year for catastrophic coverage but earned an additional $10,000 a year, you could cover those strep-throat and broken-arm bills yourself, and probably come out ahead. Plus you’d have a keen incentive to comparison shop. Doctors could no longer loftily say, “We don’t discuss prices.”

Homeowner’s insurance is catastrophe insurance. It pays if the house burns down — the kind of thing no one can budget for. It doesn’t cover all costs of maintaining a home; you pay most ownership costs and you comparison shop. If homeowner’s insurance worked like American health insurance, it would not only pay for fires but also cover utility bills, replacing broken appliances, baseballs hit into the window and all the food, drink and paper towels that pass through the kitchen. Certainly, a company could offer an insurance product that covered absolutely every expense of living in a home. But such insurance would be phenomenally expensive and full of ultra-complex rules; the insurer would also acquire an incentive to dream up excuses to deny payment. Just like American health care insurance!

I really like this idea, but mainly for a reason that isn’t stated in his column- personal accountability.  Right now, there is no incentive for Americans to eat right or to exercise.  I’m going to use my father as an example.  He’s 65 yrs old, retired, and has Medicare plus a supplemental insurance policy partly paid for by the company he retired from.  He’s also about 40 lbs overweight and has high cholesterol and high blood pressure.

What does the insurance industry do to encourage him to alter his lifestyle? Absolutely nothing.  He continues to get his medication, we all pay a little more because of it, and he goes on failing to take care of himself.

Why not offer tiered pricing, tied to measureable improvements in health?  Lose 10 lbs, your copay decreases by a certain amount.  Or reduce your total cholesterol by 20 pts, we’ll reduce your out-of-pocket cost for your medication.  While in the short term this will increase the insurance companies costs, the long-term goal is to encourage the individual to make the lifestyle changes that will enable to get off the prescription medication entirely, leading to long-term savings.  Believe it or not, a prescription for blood pressure or cholesterol medication does not need to be a life sentence!

So imagine if we all only had catastrophic health insurance. How much cost savings would be possible and how much of an incentive would there be to take better care of ourselves?

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Before anyone jumps on me, I recognize that health care reform is enormously complex and what I say above is pretty simplistic in the grand scheme of things.  I think that eliminating insurance companies ability to deny coverage for pre-existing conditions is absolutely essential, as is requiring standard pricing for services.  Why should doctors be able to charge insurance companies less than an individual without insurance for an MRI, for example?  If they routinely charge the insurance company less, it’s because they can afford to and still make a profit.  Which means the individual without insurance is being gouged.

There is a model for health care reform that seems to have worked well.  The Netherlands reformed their system in the last decade or so, with good success.  Check out this article in The New Republic for some details.

Here is another plan that I’m a fan of:

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Perhaps I’ll post something else later day, maybe another picture from Southern Vixen’s visit, to thank you for taking the time to read this drivel….

Happy Hump Day!

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Things I'm enjoying lately

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Oct 272009
 

Emmy posted something similar back in August, and imitation being the sincerest form of flattery or something like that, I’m doing the same.  Sometimes we focus on the difficult things, the problems we’re having, thinks we don’t like or that irritate us.  So I’m taking a few minutes to write down some things that I’m enjoying lately.

- My kids. Darling Boy never ceases to amaze me with his imagination and vocabulary.  He’s doing really well in school and in karate and his teachers can’t say enough nice things about him.  Princess Persistent always brings a smile to my face with her attitude, smile, laugh, and overall demeanor.  Best of all, she is just about potty-trained.  Woohoo!!  They are undeniably the best part of my life.

- Work. I know, right?  But really, it’s pretty good lately.  I enjoy what I do and am well compensated for my work.  Not too much in the way of bureaucratic headaches and I often go home feeling like I’ve made a good dent in the almighty to-do list that day.  Plus, I’ve fallen into some sort of mentoring role with 2 co-workers and am excited about how some data that I’m working on is looking.  Which is a twisted way of saying that I’m gaining satisfaction with statistics.  Perhaps I need professional help there…

- Family. My sister is about 6 months pregnant with her first child.  She’s several hours away and I don’t see her much at all, but I’m excited for her and my BIL and also about becoming an uncle for the first time.  My stepdad was seriously ill for most of last winter and spent several months in a collection of hospitals, rehab centers and nursing homes. We were so concerned that DB and I flew out to visit him in mid-February because we thought he might not make it.  But now he’s doing really well and celebrated his 86th birthday last week.

- Lifestyle. Veronica and I have a fantastic sex life, which is only made better with the occasional inclusion of certain friends. I once could only dream about doing some of the things I now do on a semi-regular basis.  Yes, I’m a very lucky man!

- Travel. For the first 14 yrs Veronica and I were married, we couldn’t travel much at all.  Between being young and poor, various graduate programs [hers and mine], and children, we couldn’t afford to travel much.  But in the last year alone, Veronica went to OsTour 2008, we helped a friend afford to trip to come see us, we went to Miami for a mid-winter weekend getaway, she came with me to Seattle for a week when I had a conference there, and of course we just went to Las Vegas 2 weeks ago.  In the coming year I have a conference in Anaheim which Veronica will accompany me to and she’ll join me for a long weekend or two when I go to Texas for 2 months later in the year.  Thank goodness for a little disposable income and retired grandparents to watch the kids!

- Photography. I really enjoyed the Photoshop class I recently took and am exploring what I can do with my camera.  I think that a digital SLR might be in my future.  My 40th birthday is this winter, after all….

- Blogging. You ever go through those periods when you don’t feel like writing, or you’re disappointed in the reaction, or lack of, to posts you publish?  I know I have, but not lately!  I often receive good, insightful comments on my posts, there is an absence of trolls, and for whatever reason, site visits to my blog have increased almost 50% in the last month.  I don’t know where you’re all coming from, but I’m glad you’re here and hope you keep coming back!!  Perhaps most satisfying is that the days when I get the most visits aren’t always Thursdays- it appears I’m not just a piece of ass, at least to some of you ;-)

- My blogger friends. There are a number of bloggers of who have become good friends, some of whom I have had the pleasure of meeting, others whom I hope to meet someday.  I’m not going to name drop, they know who they are.  And even if I may never get to chance to meet some of them, all of blogger friends are part of what make me happy.

- Veronica. This list would not be complete without her.  Nothing else I’ve written about today would be the same without her.  She’s been making me happy for 19 yrs and counting!

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So what about you, what’s been making you happy lately?  Feel free to steal this idea for a post of your own or share your thougths in the comments.

Don’t forget to visit Tits for Troops today, a new post is up.  As usual you can find Veronica and I there and I happen to know a lovely lady who is making her anonymous debut this week.

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Swing Shift Volume 17- Threesomes, from 3 Perspectives

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Oct 262009
 

Last week we wrote about Boundaries and Issues, which was suggested to us by Britni in response to a request I posted on Twitter.  Emmy also replied to that request with a suggestion of her own:

Twitter3someTalk about perfect timing, since our friend Southern Vixen was visiting this weekend as a surprise for Veronica’s birthday!  And since Veronica and I have had 3somes with 4 different women over the course of the last year [yes, I'm very lucky, Veronica reminds me daily, you don't need to as well!], we’d like to think we’ve learned a few things about having a “successful” 3some.

With Southern Vixen here and considering the topic, this week’s post will be in 3 parts- my perspective on FMF 3somes, as the male half of a couple, Veronica’s perspective as the female half of the couple, plus Southern Vixen’s perspective as the 3rd person joining the party and as a “unicorn” in the lifestyle.

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The first time we ever had a 3some, I messed up.  The fact that is was a friend was part of the problem, because it’s someone we care about and still consider a good friend to this day.  Because of the nature of our relationship, Veronica felt like she was watching us make love instead of just fucking/having sex.  Notice I said that Veronica was watching us.  Not because she found it hot to watch us, but because our friend and I neglected to include her in the action.  And perhaps partly because our friend was bi-curious, with no experience, Veronica was hesitant to join in and touch her.

We learned two lessons from this first experience- both of us need to make an conscious effort to ensure that we’re both involved/not feeling neglected and we only play with bi- or bi-curious women.

Both of us being involved doesn’t necessarily mean there is intimate contact between all 3 of us simultaneously.  Personally, sometimes I love just sitting back and watching Veronica with another woman.  And sometimes Veronica likes to watch as well.  But even when she’s watching, there are little things I can do or say to keep her involved.  A simple touch of my hand to her face and stroking her cheek, leaning over to kiss her, whispering “I love you” in her ear, I try to do those little things to show that while I’m greatly enjoying fucking our friend, she’s still my one and only love.

The bi- or bi-curious women rule is based on a simple reality- I have no fuckin’ clue how to satisfy 2 women at once!!  I don’t think I could do it.  Either there is always one woman who is left watching or my abilities improve significantly!

Veronica:  I am sure some of you are reading this and thinking “I want to know how to get to the naked threesome fun in the 1st place!”  Since we have no MFM experience, and based on what I see on the lifestyle websites, finding a single man to join in is not a big problem.  Finding a single woman however is difficult.  Add in attractive, reasonably sane and a non-smoker, you really raise the bar.  Let’s just say that these women are called ‘Unicorns’ for a reason.   If you are looking on the lifestyle websites, there are some single women but if they will be contacted by dozens of people a day.  If you see one of them and they intrigue you, then you should send them a very well crafted e-mail.  This is when you really take your time to carefully respond.  If you do get contacted by one of these women then they need to be at the top of your response list and given close and careful attention or you might quickly lose your chance.

Southern Vixen: Yeah.  This part is true.  While I, by no means, find myself being contacted by boat-loads of couples/women/men, I do have a few to fish through.  This is not because I’m so fucking amazing that everyone wants to be with me – it is simply because I’m a single woman in the lifestyle and I’m not a complete hag.  I completely agree that your first introduction to a “unicorn” should be polite, not filthy and most certainly, not littered with “do you like big cocks?”  C’mon.  Are you serious?

Veronica: Once you have the woman there, you have to brace yourself for the fact that your man might pay more attention to the new girl than you, because she is in fact, new and different.  You need to discuss boundaries and such before the get-together. (SouthernVixen: I like to be sensitive to this situation.  I prefer to enjoy the woman first, before involving the man.  99% of the time, grabbing the woman and “getting to know her” is not something I have to force.  I like the things a woman brings to the bedroom.)   If you are bi-curious and inexperienced with women, discuss what you plan to do if you realize in the middle of things that you do not like girl-on-girl sex.  Also try to imagine how you will deal with the scenario of having sex with a woman who ends up not enjoying sex with you.

Usually if Hubman and I are having sex with someone who is not adverse to pictures, each of the members of the threesome may take breaks to get a few pictures of the action.  (Heck, when I’m 90 and in the nursing home, I want some pictures of what my ass looked like back then.)

If this was the other person’s 1st 3some, check up with them in the next day to make sure that they are still good with everything.  Also, make sure you chat with your primary partner afterward to make sure that everything is good between you.  It always helps to remind your primary partner that they are the most important person to you, no matter how hot the sex with the other person was.

Southern Vixen: Threesomes can be, logistically, interesting at times.  But once you get used to the flow (and it will be different from threesome to threesome) taking pictures or sitting back and masturbating work beautifully.  I always keep a hand on one of my lovers, at all times.  This keeps me connected to the couple.  I LOVE to watch the interaction between a couple.  It turns me on and sometimes, that’s what I want to watch.  Sometimes I want to get fucked really hard while I eat the other woman’s pussy.  There is no perfect way to make it work.  You just have to have really good communication (before, during and after your session) and make sure all parties are “on board.”  Having a kick-ass relationship with the couple (or other two people) doesn’t hurt either!

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As always, reader comments and questions are welcome.  Have you been involved in a 3some? Were you the third party or as part of a couple? Did you have good or bad experience, why or why not?  How about MFM 3somes? We have no experience with those and would like to hear your thoughts about what makes a “good” MFM 3some for you, men and women alike.  If you’d prefer to remain anonymous, just e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com.

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Southern Vixen and Strippers

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Oct 252009
 

Veronica and I took SoVix out to dinner last night [wait, she grabbed the check, so she took us out to dinner.  Anyway...] then we took her to our favorite strip club.  Now I’ve been in a strip club with SoVix before, about a year ago in Atlanta, so I should have remembered this, or maybe I didn’t notice then.

The woman is totally afraid to approach the stage and tip a dancer, even the hottest woman there!

This is the woman who will go to a swingers club and be the life of the party, who isn’t shy about having sex with multiple partners [men and women] with an audience watching.  Anyone who knows SoVix knows that she is a outgoing, gregarious, extremely friendly person who has an amazing ability to strike up conversation with just about anyone she meets.

Get her in a strip club, she becomes a wallflower.

I went to the stage several times, as did Veronica.  Each time, we would ask SoVix if she’d like to join us.  “Oh, no no no no no nooooooo” was the typical reply.

We offered that if either Veronica or I saw a girl we wanted to get a dance from that SoVix would be welcome to watch.  No dice, she was NOT interested.

Try as we might, we failed to entice her to get up close and personal with a stripper.

But…

Remember when Veronica wrote about taking Stripper 101 in Las Vegas?

SoVix was NOT shy about enjoying a private dance from Veronica.

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But I’ll leave that story for SoVix to tell…

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The Weekend So Far

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Oct 242009
 

Southern Vixen wrote a post today describing our fun yesterday.  You should check it out.  Today has been very vanilla, with SoVix accompanying Veronica and Princess Persistent first to PP’s dance class then going food shopping.  Now Veronica is taking PP to a friends birthday party while SoVix and I consider naps.  Oh, the excitement…

Veronica and I are normally very affectionate with our lifestyle friends and it’s a little odd having to hold back a little bit- Darling Boy is getting old enough to figure things out.  We’re kinda pushing our luck with having SoVix spend the night in our bed instead of on the futon downstairs as it is.  Speaking of her in our bed, last night the ladies are getting ready for bed [after the fun, that is] when Veronica realizes that she has the same booty shorts that SoVix was putting on.  So they went to bed in matching underwear.  And they insisted that I take a few pictures first.  See?

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Tonight the kids are staying home with a sitter while the grown-ups go out for dinner, after which we’re taking SoVix to our favorite strip club.  The really interesting part?  Veronica’s brother’s ex-girlfriend might be joining us!  Yes, I realize that requires some explanation.  She and Veronica have remained friends since the break-up and they were chatting online earlier this week.  It turns out that she is in our area this weekend, so Veronica invited her to join us tonight.  Of course, at the time Veronica had no idea that SoVix would be here.  We strongly suspect that she’s bi-, so we knew she’d enjoy an evening of guessing are-they-real-or-fake at a strip club and catching up.  While I really like the idea of the brother-in-laws ex-gf joining us [what? she's bi AND hot!], as Veronica put it “she used to fuck my brother! Eww…”, so that’s likely not gonna happen.  But I can dream, right?

If you follow me on Twitter, you’ve already seen the hot new shoes Veronica will be wearing tonight.  Maybe there will be more pictures and stories to share tomorrow ;-)

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HUGE Suprise for Veronica

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Oct 232009
 

By the time you’re reading this post, I’ve walked into the house, Southern Vixen on my heels.

And Veronica had no idea that she was coming to visit!!!!

Long-time readers will know that we are very good friends with Southern Vixen, regardless of the 800 or so miles between us, but we have not seen her in quite a while.  While SoVix and I got together for an overnight visit back in July and we also met for breakfast in early September, those were work trips for me and Veronica missed out on seeing her.  They haven’t seen each other since last January.

For months we’ve talked about getting SoVix to come visit us for a long weekend, which she really wanted to do.  Sometime in August I hatched the idea of her visiting for Veronica’s birthday weekend and mentioned the idea to her.  She was all over the idea, ran it by her husband and soon bought her plane ticket.

All the while, we’ve been lying to Veronica, making excuses as to why SoVix can’t get away- kid obligations, money issues, spouse issues.  Meanwhile, I’ve been feigning irritation with SoVix and I’ve been setting things up with lies of my own.  Veronica thought I had to work late today, for a very plausible reason.  But what I was really doing was driving to the airport to pick up SoVix.  Earlier in the week I suggested to Veronica that we get a sitter for Saturday night so that we could have a date night, just me and her.  I don’t think Veronica will mind the extra company for dinner and a visit to our favorite strip club!

Drafting this on Friday morning, I’m smiling in anticipation of the look on Veronica’s face when I walk in the door with SoVix.  I wonder if I can manage to get some pictures of the moment?

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!!!!

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