Swing Shift Volume 14- The Introductory Letter

This topic was suggested to us by a few different readers, some of whom prefer to remain anonymous.

You’ve created a profile on a swingers website and have been browsing other profiles with your partner, seeing who catches your attention.  You see a couple that you like, their profile suggests that you might have something in common, and you have similar desires.  It’s time to contact them and see if they’re interested in you.

But how do you do that? What do you say?  For starters, don’t send something like this [all examples are actual messages that we've received and have not been edited in any way]:

hey guys godmorning, very nice profile think we got alot in common, we serious and ready to meet, check us out n hit us up. have a good day

Or like this:

nice pics,,  great butt, T&D

I wish I was kidding, but I logged in to SLS  Sunday evening to look for another example and T&D sent us almost the exact same message again!  That’s now 3 times they’ve sent the same crappy message to us…

Or this:

somehow have missed your profile in the past…lets meet for a drink some time if interested

But this one is pretty good:

We just might be up your way Labor Day Weekend and liked what we read and saw in your profile. We are confident experienced fun people who enjoy the time spent with others who enjoy the lifestyle..

We love people, sex and are a laid back couple who enjoy sharing close times with others.. Seems we might just have a great time knowing the two of you..  Both have playful dirty minds and enjoy sharing in the presence of others who enjoy this type of fun relationship.

Also please don’t be like some of the other cpls out there who have only revealing pics of the female half. After all it’s about the ladies fun as well. You’ll find revealing photos of XXXX and would appreciate the same as far as your male half is concerned.

Let’s just pick a time next weekend (Friday or Sunday)

Now here is one that Veronica sent to a couple that we found attractive:

I took the opportunity to ready your whole profile. (Really I did, you can quiz me and everything!)

I love your sense of humor and intelligence and find both of you sexy as hell from your picture.

*Hubman* is straight and I am bi, do not have to do the girl thing every time. I really enjoy quality cock and someone who knows what to do with it, who can keep me mentally and physically stimulated depending on the situation.

I agree about the not living together thing as I do not get nearly enough control of the remote as it is.

We would love the opportunity to meet and have strip club night (Centerfold’s and Mario’s are favorites) and get to know both of you better.

I am attaching a face pic and you will find that we look nothing like your “absolutely not” person. If you find us attractive and are intrigues by our profile, please shoot us an email or look for us on Yahoo Chat as ************.

Have a great night. Hope to hear from you soon.

*Veronica and Hubman*

Now some of this may not make sense to you, but Veronica was referring to specific things they mentioned in their profile.  We also included a face picture with the message.  The point is, we’re trying to show that we’ve read their profile and we really are interested in getting to know them, and not just fuck them.

Since Veronica takes care of a lot of the e-mailing with other couples, it’s her turn…

Veronica:  I have to admit, my inner HR Geek comes out during this.  I tend to think of each profile as an advertisement for who the couple is and what they want.  I also believe that the physically more attractive the couple is, the more competition there will be for their attention.

My goal:   To make our email stand out from the other emails that the couple might get.

My method of accomplishing this is to refer to things the couple wrote about in their profile.   It makes the person feel special and shows that you are intelligent and detail oriented.    I personally feel that someone who pays attention to detail in other matters will also pay attention while having sex.

If the couple you are e-mailing is light on text, look at the photos.   Have you been to any of the locations in their photos?  Do you admire the lingerie or shoes worn in the photos?  Mentioning those things are good because it shows that you are paying attention.

I also think the fact that I write the emails works out well for us.  It puts the people at ease that there is indeed a woman in the relationship and that the woman is actively engaged in the lifestyle.

Another good pointer is to make sure you are spelling everyone’s name right.  “Caryn” might not be so enamored of you if you address your letter to “Karen”.  Its one of those little things that matter.  And while you’re at it, spell check the rest of the email too.

Ideally your 1st email should show that you read their profile.  It should also offer some teaser information about you that gets the couple to look at your well written, informative profile with quality, recent photos.   Then that profile should get you a response email from the couple.

If you are responding to a couple who sent you an email, make sure you thank them for their interest and look at their profile.  If you are interested in them, follow the guidelines for the initial email in your response.

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As always, comments and questions are welcome.  Note, however, that I’ve disabled anonymous comments (had an asshat or two last week…) so if you’d prefer to remain anonymous, e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com and I promise to keep your ID between you, me and Veronica.

Speaking of Veronica, she has a miscellany post up today, including a little something about a strippers class she’s going to take while we’re in Vegas this coming weekend.  You should go read it…

hey guys godmorning, very nice profile think we got
alot in common, we serious and ready to meet, check
us out n hit us up. have a good day

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