Swing Shift Volume 20- Finding Playmates

Veronica and I generally prefer to use websites such as Swinglifestyle and Swappernet to find potential playmates, and have had some very sexy adventures with people we’ve met that way.  [We've already written about websites here.  We've also written about getting started in general here.] But that is not the only way to find playmates- there are also hotel parties, house parties, and both on-premise and no-play swingers clubs.

Hotel Parties

This is actually how we first dipped our toes into the lifestyle. The evening typically starts out with people milling about and socializing, getting to know newcomers and visiting with old friends.  Eventually, some people pair off with who they came with and/or with others, while some just watch from a discreet distance.  We’ve found these to be a no-pressure atmosphere- sometimes we just enjoy the atmosphere and leave without removing a stitch of clothing during the party, others times Veronica and I will have sex with each other, and others times we’ve played with other couples.  How much you partake in the fun is up to you and your comfort level.

House Parties

We’ve only been to 2, and they’ve been hosted by the same couple that hosts the hotel parties that we prefer.  In this limited experience, we’ve found it to a be a smaller crowd of people that are more likely to know each other.  At the party we went to this past Saturday night, there were easily a half dozen couples there that we knew already [including Stan and Darla, who we played with a hotel party back in March], so it might be a more familiar crowd, but still with a mix of newcomers.

On-Premises Clubs

These are referred this way because there are private, semi-private, and out-in-the-open places for play, all of which are physically separate from the rest of the club.  We’ve only been to one, Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale with Southern Vixen last January.

No-Play Clubs

I didn’t know what else to call these, hence the clumsy name.  There are clubs in our area that cater to swingers, at least once in a while, but there are no places to nekkid fun.  Think of it as a nightclub with a narrowly targeted clientele.  We’ve been to 2 in our area, but since we’re not really nightclub people, they’re not our thing.

So that’s all well and good, but how do you find these different places and parties?

You could always start with Googling your area and “swingers parties”.  I tried that for my area and got numerous hits, though I suspect many of the different directories all list the same parties over and over again.  Both lifestyle websites we belong to have listings as well.  Swappernet has a “Groups” section, which appears to mostly be couples who host hotel or in-home gatherings.  It also has a section to help you if you want to run a party, making it easy for you to send out invitations within the Swappernet e-mail system.  There is also a page with local club listings.

Swinglifestyle also has resources for finding clubs, parties and events in your area.  For both of these sites, I’m not sure if you need to be a paying member or not in order to use these resources.  If anyone knows, please let us know in the comments section.

Word of mouth is also very helpful.  An on-premises club recently opened in our region, so before going, we asked some friends about it when we were at a hotel party.  Of course, we haven’t actually gone there yet…

Veronica:  Now playing at parties and clubs is not for everyone.  It can be a little intimidating to get naked in front of people, or it might not be an opportune place to play, or your 1st choice couple might hook-up with another couple before you get a chance to proposition them and they are all fucked out by the time you are free.  The challenge is now how to find the people who interest you to arrange a more private meeting.  Hubman and I got lucky with B&K our first hookup.  We met them at a party we had been too, and the day after the party I told Hubman I wanted to try to see them.  Since Hubman was smitten with K, I contacted the host of that party and asked them to please forward our contact information to B&K.  The rest was history.

However it is simpler to take the advice of Swingerwife (her blog has gone on a private hiatus so I cannot link to her) and have some cards made up with your names and contact information and your profile names on which ever websites you choose to use, which you can then give to a couple you’d like to see in a more private environment.

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As always, reader comments and suggestions are welcome.  For our fellow swingers, what are your experiences with these different venues like?  Since Veronica and I have limited experience with clubs, we’d especially like to hear more about those.  How else have you met playmates?  Anyone ever proposition a neighbor?

You might notice that this column wasn’t in response to a reader question or e-mail, like many others.  If you have any ideas for a future Swing Shift, please leave a comment or e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com.

For the hell of it, here’s a random picture from our friends visit a week or so ago…

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