The Last Doughboy

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Feb 282011
 

From The New York Times

Frank Buckles, who drove an Army ambulance in France in 1918 and came to symbolize a generation of embattled young Americans as the last of the World War I doughboys, died on Sunday at his home in Charles Town, W. Va. He was 110. He was only a corporal and he never got closer than 30 or so miles from the Western Front trenches, but Mr. Buckles became something of a national treasure as the last living link to the two million men who served in the American Expeditionary Forces in France in “the war to end all wars.”

In April 2007, Mr. Buckles was identified by the United States Department of Veterans Affairs as one of the four known survivors among the more than 4.7 million Americans who had served in the armed forces of the Allied nations between April 6, 1917, when the United States entered World War I, and the Armistice of Nov. 11, 1918.

Two of the four — J. Russell Coffey and Harry Landis — had served stateside in the American Army. Mr. Coffey died in December 2007 at 109; Mr. Landis, in February 2008 at 108. John Babcock, who was Canadian born, served in Canada’s army in Britain in World War I and held dual American and Canadian citizenship, died in Spokane, Wash., in February 2010 at 109.

He was living in Oakwood, Okla., when America entered World War I and he tried to enlist in the Marine Corps at age 16, having been inspired by recruiting posters. The Marines turned him down as under-age and under the required weight. The Navy didn’t want him either, saying he had flat feet. But the Army took him in August 1917 after he had lied about his age, and he volunteered to be an ambulance driver, hearing that that was the quickest path to service in France.

He sailed for England in December 1917 on the Carpathia, the ship that helped save survivors of the Titanic’s sinking in 1912. He later served in various locations in France, including Bordeaux, and drove military autos and ambulances.

Thank you for your service Mr Buckles, may you rest in peace

 

We have Janie!

Janie is one of the ladies who saw and responded to my Ashley Madison profile before I even had a chance to browse some profiles and contact anyone myself. So, who is this woman?

45 yrs old, 5’8″, 135 lbs, so far so good!

Attached, looking for some excitement that seems to be missing from home, checks off a ton of check-boxes on her profile but she also took the time to write a little bit about herself, which is encouraging. She’s a little further away than I’d prefer, 45 minutes or so, but I decide to pursue her and see what happens.

What’s this? She’s also given me the “key” to her “private showcase” and there are 2 face pictures. Hey, she’s really good looking!

We exchange a couple of messages on AM then share e-mail addresses, I share a slightly more revealing picture  of my face than I have in my profile and we exchange phone numbers. (Nobody ever did guess which of my HNT photos they thought I might be using for my private showcase.)

It’s a Thursday morning, I’m at work and she texts me, asking if I have a few minutes to talk. Sure, why not? I close my office door (yay for having my own office!) and give her a call.

I have to say, we spent about 15 minutes on the phone and the conversation flowed easily, she’s easy to chat with and seems comfortable hearing about the arrangement that Veronica and I have. She seemed concerned that maybe I was just looking for a woman to join Veronica and I, and while we’d certainly consider that, I tell her that’s not what we’re looking for, this is about me finding a friend with benefits. I told her that I was traveling the next day and would be away for a few days but that once I returned I would get in touch.

Maybe this is where I messed up…

After I got back, I kinda forgot about her for a few days, it ended up being a full week after we spoke until I contacted her again.

And got no reply.

I gave her a couple of days, then e-mailed her again, asking if her lack of response indicated a change of heart.

And got no reply to that e-mail either.

While I have her phone number, I don’t know if her hubby might see a text message from me or when would be a good time that I wouldn’t have to worry about causing trouble for her. I’ll have to be content with non-responses to my e-mails and move on.

Fortunately, behind curtain number 2 there’s Katie…

Feb 262011
 

I don’t know about you, but the US budget is so big as to be damn-near beyond my comprehension. Until I came across this piece from Slate excerpted on The Daily Dish. Here is the premise- President Obama’s budget he sent to Congress for FY12 is $3.73 trillion, while taking in $2.63 trillion in revenue. That’s proportional to a household that earns $60,000 spending $85,000!

How is Uncle Sam spending that $85,000?
$17,400 for Social Security
$10,700 for Medicare
$6,100 for Medicaid
$13,600 for other mandatory programs such as food stamps

So far we’ve spent $47,800 or over 3/4 of our $60,000 income on “mandatory” expenditures. Yikes…

Now we still have to consider what falls under discretionary funding
$20,000 for the Department of Defense
$5,500 for interest on existing debt
$10,400 on everything else, that is, non-mandatory/non-defense, items

Here are a few bits and pieces of that $10,400
$400 on energy
$500 on agriculture
$1,000 on housing and urban development
$1,800 on education

Chris Christie, governor of New Jersey, summed up my thoughts pretty well

“Let me suggest to you that what game is being played down here is irresponsible and it’s dangerous. We need to say these things and we need to say them out loud. When we say we’re cutting spending, when we say everything is on the table, when we say we mean entitlement programs, we should be specific. And let me tell you what is the truth. What’s the truth that no one is talking about? Here is the truth that no one is talking about: you’re going to have to raise the retirement age for social security. Oh I just said it and I’m still standing here! I did not vaporize into the carpeting and I said it.

We have to reform Medicare because it costs too much and it is going to bankrupt us. Once again lightning did not come through the windows and strike me dead. And we have to fix Medicaid because it’s not only bankrupting the federal government, it’s bankrupting every state government. There you go. If we’re not honest about these things, on the state level about pensions and benefits and on the federal level about Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid, we are on the path to ruin,” – governor Chris Christie.

While I understand people’s passion about the Republican’s attempts to de-fund Planned Parenthood, for example, the dollar amounts involved are a fucking joke, it’s all about symbolism and pandering to their base. If only we as a country could work up the same passion for seriously seeking solutions to those big-ticket items that are driving us to financial ruin, perhaps our fiscal future would look a little brighter.

 

Last week DB was the theme, appearing in 4 of the photos, this week’s theme could be “toys”
[As always, click on any picture to view at full-size in a new window]

Day 51- Sticks Galore Saturday we had some vicious winds, gusts upward of 45 mph. While we were fortunate that no trees or limbs came down, quite a few smaller branches did, which stood out nicely against the backdrop of the snow on the ground

105 mm macro lens, ISO 400, F/8, 1/320 sec

Day 52- Flying Marble Being the evil parents we are, Sunday we made DB clean his room and lo and behold he came across a toy under his bed, which he and PP happily played with for a while. With a little building help from dad…

105 mm macro lens, ISO 800, F/3.5, 1/250 sec

Day 53- More Marble Fun Another day, another rediscovered toy. Yesterday’s toy was a little too complex for PP so I pulled out this one, a simpler gravity-feed marble tower toy thingy.

105 mm macro lens, ISO 800, F/3.5, 1/80 sec

Day 54- Grown up toys Not all of the toys in the house are for the kids :-)

105 mm macro lens, ISO 1600, F/3.5, 1/8 sec

Day 55- HNT Wednesday I took Veronica’s HNT picture, click here to see it

Day 56- Swing With more and more days of warmer temperatures the snow is slowly receding. Not too long ago it was deep enough that only the chains were visible.

105 mm macro lens, ISO 800, F/2.8, 1/60 sec

Day 57- Rain Almost an inch and a half of it! Good thing it wasn’t 10 degrees colder, all of this would have been snow

105 mm macro lens, ISO 800, F/2.8, 1/320 sec

 

That’s what I chose as the caption for my Ashley Madison profile. We had discussed the idea of my looking for a friend with benefits, now it was time to write a profile and try to find that woman.

I had briefly toyed with the idea the playing the role of the sexually frustrated husband who’s looking to cheat on his wife, but really, isn’t that like damn near every other guy on AM? I want to stand out from the crowd, to catch a woman’s attention and make her think “now there’s a guy I’d like to get to know.”

Honesty certainly seemed to be the best policy when I was away all last summer, why not stick with what works?

Height, weight, age, where I live, what I’m looking for (“Anything goes”), smoking habits (“Never”), in just a few minutes I have the outline of a profile that has done absolutely nothing to make me stand out from the crowd. Yet.

The next step in creating a profile on AM is a page called “My Intimate Desires” and it contains no less than 35 check boxes, everything from “kissing” and “cuddling and hugging” to “fetishes”, “open to experimentation” and “being dominant/master.”

I skip all of these, checking off none of them and instead I use the text box to share a few thoughts of my own

Does anyone really check off these boxes? I have a variety of desires and am also open to new opportunities, I wouldn’t want to limit myself by checking off some boxes

Nothing terribly creative, but at least it shows that I’m not just blindly checking off boxes without much thought. The next page is “My Perfect Match” and again there is an extensive list of check boxes. As if my perfect match (actually I’m already married to her, this is for my perfect fuck-buddy) can be found by checking off some boxes. Instead I use the text box again and get a little playful

The fact that you are on here shows that you are really interested in having sex and that gets us halfway there.

I could do better and might go back to revise that at some time, but for now I leave it alone. Lastly we come to “My Personal Interests” and again with the stupid check boxes! Ladies who are on AM, do a lot of guys just use those and not bother to write anything? I’m curious what you think. Now it’s time to use the text box area to elaborate on what I’m doing here and what I’m looking for.

My wife and I have an open marriage and have come to enjoy playing separately with others as well as together.  I’m not looking to replace anything at home, I couldn’t be happier, this is just a fun diversion.  Short-term, long-term, I’m opened minded about seeing what might develop.  But don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking for a one-night stand or a notch on the bedpost.  And if you’re skeptical about all of this, you can ask my wife, I’d be happy to let you talk to her if you think I’m full of BS!

The last step in creating my profile was to include some pictures. I wanted something to show publicly that lets her know that I’m a reasonably in-shape guy but doesn’t show my face. Check out my Twitter avatar, that’s the picture I used. AM has what they call a “Private Showcase” you can give someone a “Key” to it and they can see other pictures, and you can revoke the key at any time. Might as well add a couple of pictures there as well! I ended up using a couple of HNT pictures, one from last May and one from November. Bonus points to anyone who guesses which ones correctly ;-)

So now I have a profile on AM. That was enough for one evening, it was time to put down the laptop and I would start searching for women to contact some other day.

And then before I had the chance, not one but two women contacted me first…

Feb 222011
 

I’ll start by saying that I really enjoy Twitter, damn near any time of day ( or night, do some of you ever sleep?) there is someone there I can chat with, and I don’t even follow that many people. I’ve made friends, found new blogs and websites to read, and with my vanilla account keep up with several news and sports sites and personalities.

But some things on Twitter just fucking annoy the hell out of me

Follow Friday
Or is it Friday Follow? I don’t give a shit, either way it annoys me. For the uninitiated, Follow Friday or #FF in hashtag-ese is a way for people to suggest people that they think are worth following. Here’s how NOT to do it, an actual tweet from last week:

#FF @EmpPalp @eva_knievel @evrythingmustgo @hannahsatana @hubman38 @JackSht @Joey_bagodonuts @JohnnyHardass @jeffwcpa @Lord_Voldemort7

Just a list of people, no reason why any of them are the least bit interesting. To top it off, the person who posted that tweet has never interacted with me and I don’t follow them back. So why on earth are they suggesting that others follow me? My timeline on Fridays is full of crap like that, the only thing that is worse are the people who tweet over and over and over, listing seemingly everyone they follow, as if every one of them needs to be followed by the rest of us. Even better are the people who re-tweet every tweet that they are mentioned in- “hey look at me, someone said you should follow me, so I’m going to repeat it to everyone who already follows me”

The only time I’ve done a #FF, it looks something like this: #FF @VeronicaASM because she’s smart, sexy, and funny. Never mind that she’s married to me :-)

Maybe my reason for suggesting her sucks, but at least I’m giving you a reason why I like her.

Locked Accounts

See that sidebar on the left? There are my latest tweets, or here is my Twitter page where you scroll back as far as you like. You see, you don’t have to have to follow me on Twitter or even have a Twitter account to see what I’m saying, but not all accounts are like that, some people feel the need to keep their accounts private, only people they approve can see their tweets. Now I’ll admit that there may be perfectly good reasons for doing so, a psycho ex-, for example, or if a work-group is using Twitter as a means of communication.

Others, it’s like a power game. “Oh, Mr zero tweets and following 100 people, you want to follow me? I don’t think so”

Why not? It’s social media, why are some people so damn anti-social about it? It’s like there’s some secret litmus test people have to pass in order to be allowed to follow someone.

Me? I want to be approachable, not snobbish. And it that means I have a bunch of spambots and people who never interact following me mixed in with the people I regularly interact with, so be it.

Following back

You’re following me? Thank you. But don’t expect me to follow back out of some sense of courtesy. I follow people who I find interesting, who have something to say, who like to engage others in a conversation. I see Twitter as a big room filled with clusters of people talking about a wide variety of topics. You’re standing quietly at the side of the room saying nothing? Sorry, I’m not following you back. You’re talking non-stop but never listening to what others say, even when it’s something in response to something you said? I’m not interested in monologues, I like conversations.

So don’t get pissy with me if I don’t follow back. And feel free to unfollow me if you don’t like it, I won’t mind in the least.

That’s enough, I could go on, but I’ve done enough ranting for one post…

 

Lesson 1

  1. Go to the grocery store
  2. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their main office
  3. Go home
  4. Pick up the paper
  5. Read it for the last time

Lesson 2

  1. Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who already are parents and berate them about their
  2. Methods of discipline
  3. Pack of patience
  4. Appallingly low tolerance levels
  5. Allowing their children to run wild
  6. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child’s breastfeeding, toilet training, table manners and overall behavior

Enjoy if because it will be the last time in your life that you will have all the answers

Lesson 3

A really good way to discover how the nights might feel…

  1. Get home from work and immediately begin walking around the living room from 5-10pm carrying a wet bag weighing ~8-12 lbs, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound) plyaing loudly. Eat cold food for dinner with one hand.
  2. At 10pm, put the bag down gently, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep
  3. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1am
  4. Set the alarm for 3am
  5. As you can’t get back to sleep, get up at 2am and make a drink and watch an infomercial.
  6. Go to bed at 2:45am
  7. Set up at 3am when the alarm goes off
  8. Sing songs quietly in the dark until 4am
  9. Get up, make breakfast, get ready for work and go to work (work hard and be productive)

Repeat steps 1-9 each night, for several months if not years. Look cheerful and together

Lesson 4

Can you stand the mess children make? To find out…

  1. Smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains
  2. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer
  3. Stick your fingers in the flower bed
  4. Then rub them on the clean walls
  5. Take your favorite book, photo album, etc. Wreck it
  6. Spill milk on your new pillows. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?

Lesson 5

Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems

  1. Buy an octopus and a small bag made of out loose mesh
  2. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out

Time allowed- all morning, if necessary

Lesson 6

Forget the BMW and buy a minivan. And don’t think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shiny. Family cars don’t look like that.

  1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment. Leave it there
  2. Get a dime. Stick it in the CD player
  3. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back set. Sprinkle cheerios all over the floor, then smash them with your foot.
  4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car.

Lesson 7

Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a pre-school child (a full grown goat is an excellent choice). If you intend on having more than one child, then definitely take more than one goat. Buy your week’s groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.

Lesson 8

  1. Hollow out a melon
  2. Make a small hole in the side
  3. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side-to-side
  4. How get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane
  5. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone
  6. Tip half of the remaining Cheerios into your lap, the remaining just throw up in the air

You are now ready to feed a nine-month-old baby

Lesson 9

Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street, Barney, Disney, the Teletubbies and Pokemon. Watch nothing else on TV except PBS, the Disney channel or Noggin for at least five years. (I know, you’re thinking “What’s Noggin?” Exactly the point.

Lesson 10

Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying “mommy” repeatedly. Important: no more than a four second delay between each mommy, and an occasional crescendo to the level of a supersonic jet is required. Play this tape in your car everywhere you go for the next 3 years. You are now ready to take a long road trip with a toddler.

Lesson 11

Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else continually tug on your skirt hem, shirt-sleeve, or elbow while playing the “mommy” tape from Lesson 10 above. You are now ready to have a conversation with an adult while there is a child in the room.

Congratulations, you’re now ready to have a child!

 

“I can’t ever see Veronica and I reaching a point where one of us stays home with the kids while the other one of us goes out on a date”

File that statement under “famous last words”. I’m not sure if I ever wrote those exact words somewhere, but I know that I had long felt that way. While it’s true that I’ve met and had some very enjoyable times with friends in the course of my travels for work, we always viewed that differently, since I was already away from home and it wasn’t taking away from family time.

With a few exceptions (my FWB in San Antonio, the former stripper that Slippery When Wet hooked me up with), most of these partners all have something in common- they’re married but sexually unsatisfied. Tangent time…

I realize that with the passage of years, people change, desires wax and wane, whatever.  There are all sorts of reasons why someone might choose to seek the pleasure of another without their spouses consent, and I don’t want this to read as a carte blanche condemnation of infidelity.

Read the rest of the post here.

That’s what I said, and almost 2 years later I still feel the same way. What’s more, if she’s cheating with me, that’s not my fault. If Veronica were to cheat on me, I would blame her, and I would blame myself, but not the man (or woman) she’s cheating on me with.

Seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do.
Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they want to do already.

Back in early January when Veronica’s surgery was first scheduled, she brought up the idea of my finding a local playmate while she was out of commission for several weeks.  Isn’t she good to me?

Veronica: We had discussed it before then, as I had always been turned on by Hubman’s adventures.  Just like the husband of a hotwife gets turned on hearing about the adventures of his partner, I find it arousing that Hubman is able to share his sexual talents and tell me about it later.  Also, one of the things I like about our group encounters is the smell and taste of the other woman on Hubman, and if he limits his experiences to travel time, then I don’t get to enjoy that.  However, having sex with Hubman and getting a whiff of his other lover is pretty hot for me.

Its also been great that for the most part the women he has been with on the road have been so kind and thoughtful, even sending me a ‘thanks for sharing’ e-mail or phone call.

I am not worried about Hubman falling in love with another woman, because I really believe that the more love you send out into the universe, the more love comes back to you. (New Agey- I know.)

So this new phase of openness has been on the horizon for a while in the abstract, but having a multi-week ban on sex really gave us an impetus to put the plan in motion.

Back in January, on my birthday actually, I took this picture and teased you with the question of whether it was Veronica or I or both of us who were creating a profile on a particular dating site.

Now how to go about writing that profile? Stay tuned…

Feb 192011
 

I think a week-long break from blogging is enough, I’ve got post ideas and motivation again! As promised I’ve kept up with my Project365, but I’m thinking about changing how I do things. I like this idea of one post a week with the previous 7 days pictures, so I’m going to give that a try for a few weeks.  Who knows, maybe I’ll go back to posting pictures every day, but I found myself relying on my daily picture posts for blog content too much, without much creative writing. I think going this way will also serve to motivate me to write something 2-3 times per week.

Here are my pictures of the day since I took my respite my blogging. Looking back I accidentally made it Darling Boy week, 4 of the 8 pictures are of him. As always, click on any picture to view it full-sized in a new window

43-Pudding. The kids love their Jell-o pudding snacks for desert!

105 mm macro lens, ISO 1600, F/3, 1/20 sec

44- Lab Geek Humor. There is a group in my company that does their research using rats and mice, they have numerous whimsical signs around their lab space similar to this one.

35 mm prime lens, f/1.8, ISO 200, 1/50 sec

45- Wii remote. I don’t think Darling Boy even noticed my presence, he was so involved in Mario Bros!

105 mm macro lens, ISO 1250, F/3, 1/30 sec

46- Hearts. The kids got these heart-shaped tins filled with Hershey’s kisses for Valentine’s Day

105 mm macro lens, ISO 1600, F/3, 1/15 sec

47- Tie. Darling Boy had his band concert on Tuesday evening. I wish he was kidding when he came out to the living room like this and declared himself dressed and ready to go. I promptly sent him back to his room to put on a white undershirt and then I gave him a lesson in how to properly wear a tie, even if it’s just a clip-on.

105 mm macro lens, ISO 800, F/3, 1/30 sec

48- HNT Click here for Veronica’s HNT, I am her photographer after all

49- Bedtime Reading. Darling Boy loves Calvin & Hobbes, I’d say he has excellent taste in comics but it’s my book, of course I agree with his taste!

105 mm macro lens, ISO 1600, F/3, 1/400 sec

50- Belt Test. Friday evening DB tested for his next belt in karate, here is his instructor congratulating him after passing the test. I was bummed about the pictures though, I was using my 35mm f/1.8 prime lens, figuring I would need the fast aperture so I could use a faster shutter speed and not end up with blurry actions shots. Unfortunately I was too far away for that lens and would have been much better off with my 105mm f/2.8 lens instead. Plus, I switched to JPEG mode instead of my usual RAW mode so I could use burst mode for action shots (RAW files are really big, can only get 4-5 on burst before camera memory buffer bogs down), the downside being that I was very limited in what I could in post-processing. Oh well, live and learn…

35 mm prime lens, f/1.8, ISO 1600, 1/400 sec

Respite

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Feb 122011
 

I need a respite from blogging.

After 407 consecutive days of Project365 posts along with the other random crap I post, I need a few days (maybe more) of NOT thinking about my blog.  All is well here, there’s nothing bad going on, I just need the mental break. I find myself thinking about blog posts but lacking the motivation to actually write them.

My Project365 is not dying, I’ll continue to take at least 1 photograph every day and will have a big catch-up post when I come back.

I need to figure out how to write about my recent Ashley Madison adventures. This is a new chapter in our open relationship and I need to figure out what I want to share and how. For now, let’s just say that I spent Friday morning at home fucking a sex-deprived woman on the couch, on the coffee table, on the floor…

Oh yeah, if you or anyone you know does custom blog design, please let me know. This place needs updated but I just don’t want to use some run-of-the-mill template and I’ve got a list of design and feature ideas I’d like to incorporate here.

Carry on without me, I’ll still be on Twitter if you really miss me :-)

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