A sort while after I got to San Antonio, I created a profile on a singles website, AdultFriendFinder.  Veronica is cool with me finding a playmate while I’m away from home for over 2 months, so why not?  Besides, I’ve encouraged her to continue to see any of our playmates back home, if she’s so inclined.  She hasn’t yet, but based on a phone conversation the other day, I suspect that will be changing for her.

Part of my profile reads as follows:

Away from the wife for a few months, we’re swingers when I’m home, when we’re apart we each have the freedom to find friends with benefits.  I’m not just looking for a booty call, I prefer to meet someone I can enjoy dinner out with, have an intelligent and witty conversation, maybe cap off the night with some naked fun.

It’s probably easy for a woman to say “yeah right buddy, of course she’s okay with it” and skip right past me, thinking I’m just another guy looking to cheat on his wife.  I also wonder if my short stay is working against me.

The temptation is there to change my profile, make it sound like I’m a single guy new to the area.  I can’t do that though, I’d never try to bed a woman under false pretenses.  I’m really looking for something simple, just like my profile says.  No pretenses, no long-term commitment, just some good company and if the chemistry is there, the willingness to follow through on that desire.

Am I asking too much?  I don’t think so, but apparently I am.

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I go back and forth with my desire to find a playmate here.  I think about asking Veronica to edit my profile for me, she’s so much better at that type of writing, which is why she’s in charge of our swingers profiles and I just take care of the pictures.  But then I think, it’s no so long, I’ll be fine until I see her in 3 weeks in Dallas when she comes to visit so that we can celebrate our wedding anniversary together.  And there is a blogger friend or two in nearby cities that have expressed an interest in meeting, with an eye towards getting naked together. It’s not like I’ll be celibate for 9 weeks.

Then I start thinking about the touch of a woman, kissing, hands exploring, the feel of a woman’s body against mine, all that good stuff.  I think about Veronica and our 6 times a week (at least!) sex life when we’re together, and I just want to get laid, so I log back onto the website, send a few messages and get nothing in return.

You know what? Part of it is ego-bruising, plain and simple, getting rejected, no matter what the reason…