A candle is lit to set the mood

Astroglide is within easy reach

What started as gentle love-making soon morphed into vigorous fucking with Veronica calling out “pound my ass, I’m just your little anal whore”

Who says a relaxing Friday night at home has to be boring? :-)

18-105mm lens at 34 mm, 1/20 sec at f/4.2, ISO 3200

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I have a question for my readers. What term do you use to describe anal sex?

Veronica seems to prefer “butt sex” when talking about it.  That, or she’ll make a reference to “debauching my ass.”  Sodomy is such an awful word, implies a crime is being committed.  I just can’t imagine myself saying “Hey baby, I want to sodomize you tonight.”

I just tell Veronica I want to fuck her ass, or maybe I’ll make a reference to entering through the backdoor.

What’s your preference?

 

A glimpse into some of the text messages exchanged between Veronica and I earlier today. Since I left the house this morning before anyone else was up, some mundane stuff to start off

Veronica: I’m not in love w/ PP’s cough

Me: Maybe time to bring her to the doc?

Veronica: I’m going to call today & see what they say

Me: Ok let me know if I can do anything

Veronica: I will baby, I love you

And then it gets a little more interesting…
Veronica: BTW: my ass is feeling neglected. Want to pound it before I go away this weekend?

Me: Love you too. Time to get to work, but first I’d like to know what you’re wearing

Veronica: Cranberry [Her cranberry-colored  matching Victoria's Secret thong and bra]

Me: I’ll pound your ass any night you’d like. More than once, if you’d like :-)

Veronica: Thanks baby. We’ll see how awake you are after the kids go to bed & you take my HNT pic

Me: Don’t worry, I miss your ass, I’ll find the energy

I’m looking forward to later tonight…

 

Not the second, or third, or fourth item on the list, refraining from intercourse for 3 weeks is the first item on the post-procedure care checklist!

Veronica, the eternal optimist, remarked that this will give her plenty of time to work on her oral sex technique

Me, the eternal perv, asked how much anal sex she’s ready for

And of course, there’s no reason why I have to refrain from vaginal sex, just not with her :-)

[Veronica is doing fine after undergoing a LEEP procedure to remove some pre-cancerous cells on her cervix.
She's going to write about it sometime this weekend, so I'll save my comments about the day for her post.]

 

A couple of months ago I wrote the following, to accompany a Wanton Wednesday post-

There are many ways that Veronica and I share ourselves with friends and lovers
There is one thing I don’t share with anyone else, she wouldn’t have it any other way

If you looked carefully at the click-thru picture in that post, you might have noticed that Veronica and I were having anal sex.  The message is that while we do a lot of things when we’re playing with other partners we, like just about anyone else, have our limits.  A day or two after that post John and Ann, who are regular commenters on our lifestyle posts, e-mailed me-

If you and Veronica decide to bring back advice column part of your blog, I think that you could have a very interesting post about making decisions about what couples share with others and what they don’t. The underlying reasons are very interesting.

Well, since we did decide to bring back Swing Shift, what better way to start than with this suggestion?

Once upon a time, I convinced Veronica to try anal sex, she had never tried it with any of her previous partners and well, she was my first partner at all, so obviously I never tried it before either!  As much as we’ve both come to enjoy it, as we were discussing limits with others, she told me that anal sex is something that she wants to save for just her and I, no one else gets her ass.

Veronica, care to explain your rationale?

I leave it as your sole domain because I wanted to have something of my body that I do not share with anyone but you because I like the concept of some physical exclusivity amongst the sharing.  I do not limit you because if another woman wants to experience anal sex with you, I want you and her to have the freedom to do so.  While I am sure many of the men I have had sex with would like to fuck my ass, I do not feel that my not participating in anal sex limits the fun we have together, as they still have my pussy and mouth at their disposal.   I also think that you get a little kick out of knowing that there is a part of my body that no man (or woman with a strap on) can ever have.

Isn’t that sweet? :-)

It’s not that simple though.  She’s comfortable with my having anal sex with other women, plus she is interested in trying double penetration, which we mention on our swinger website profiles as a fantasy of hers.

In practice, these limits have not presented a problem- while I have had anal sex with several other women, only once was it during a full swap with another couple.  If the topic of anal play comes up with another couple, we leave no room for misinterpretation and let them know of our boundaries.

Veronica: However a ‘boundary’ does not have to be limiting; it can also be an opportunity.  For example, while I do not mind a little cum landing on my face in the course of Hubman cumming, I do not find the idea of a facial appealing (unless I am at a really nice spa and a mani-pedi is also involved).  However in the course of our play with other couples or solo, if a woman asked Hubman to cum on her face, then he is free to do, I wouldn’t mind at all.

Because of the Wanton Wednesday post we’re using anal sex as an example, but it really applies to anything, kissing, fellatio, cunnilingus, soft swap vs full swap, whatever.  Establish the limits you and your partner are comfortable with, share those limits with your other playmates as necessary, and have fun!

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This is where we ask for feedback- do you have experiences you’d like to share? Disagree with anything that we’ve said?  Have we overlooked anything that you’d like to point out?  That’s what the comments section is for, so don’t be shy!!

Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships.  When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters.  These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned.  If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous or not.  The full archives can be found here.

 

I found this online and figured I’d see how many I’ve done.  And what I haven’t done, because it’s good to have goals ;-)
(It was written by a woman, so some obviously don’t really apply)

  1. Kiss a girl- well duh, of course!
  2. Have anal- quite often, as a matter of fact
  3. Have a threesome- yes
  4. Engage in group sex- yes
  5. Have phone sex- yes
  6. Masturbate- yes
  7. Use a vibrator- yes
  8. Use a sex toy on someone else- yes
  9. Be tied up- yes
  10. Tie someone up- yes
  11. Have sex in a public space- no
  12. Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)- yes
  13. Sex in a car- no (actually Veronica and I have, but neither of us came before we stopped)
  14. Sex at a drive-in- no
  15. Mile-high club- no
  16. Sex with a stranger- yes
  17. One-night stand- yes
  18. Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion)- yes
  19. Sex on a boat- no
  20. Sex in a body of water- no
  21. Light spanking- yes
  22. Read erotica- yes
  23. Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game- no
  24. Sex in the shower- no
  25. Sex standing up against a wall- yes
  26. Sex with no kissing- yes
  27. Sex in the pitch black- yes
  28. Sex in the broad daylight- yes
  29. Making out with no sex long after you’re no longer a virgin- yes
  30. Sex in a tent in the wilderness- no
  31. Watch porn together- yes
  32. Watch porn alone- yes
  33. Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms- no
  34. Sex on the beach- no
  35. Blindfolds- yes
  36. Using ice sexually- yes
  37. Sexual role play- yes
  38. Whipped cream- yes
  39. La Perla lingerie sex- what’s that mean, she’s wearing it?  No
  40. Frederick’s of Hollywood lingerie sex- yes
  41. Sex with someone much older- yes (10 yrs, if you’re wondering)
  42. Sex with someone younger (legal!)- yes (13 yrs, if you’re wondering)
  43. Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner- no
  44. A quickie in a skirt- yes.  She was wearing it, not me.  Though I have worn a kilt ;-)
  45. A longie in the rain- no
  46. Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you- no
  47. Feather ticklers- no
  48. Sex while “altered” whether by alcohol or something else- yes
  49. Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone- yes, didn’t need to learn!
  50. Silent sex in a full house- yes

34 of out 50, not sure if that’s good or not!

Some of these I think are pretty silly and are included just to make it a list of 50 items.  Masturbation, watching porn, reading erotica, sex in the pitch dark, I bet just about any 18 yr old has done all of these!

So what would I add to my sexual bucket list?

Sex in front of an audience- probably won’t happen, I get self-conscious and have issues with a crowd watching, but I like the idea
Fisting- tried with Veronica, couldn’t get all the way in
Double penetration- tried with Veronica and with another couple once, it’s more difficult than it looks in porn!
Have a woman deep-throat me and massage my prostate at the same time

That’s all I can think of for now!  Anything obvious you think I missed?  How about YOUR sexual bucket list?

 

Veronica and I each had our little packing lists for our rendezvous in Dallas last weekend.

Leave it to me to forget a very important item.  Fortunately it was something Veronica could easily get while she waited for me to arrive!

*click-click*
No, I wasn’t in her pussy ;-)
And no, the picture isn’t as explicit as suggested…

Click on the button to see who else is feeling Wanton this week!

 

Sometime in May I saw a tweet (from AshlyStar maybe? I can’t remember) mentioning that Fascinations was looking for some sex toy reviewers, so I contacted them, introduced myself and Veronica and asked about becoming a reviewer.  An few e-mails later and the company rep asks

How do you two feel about anal play toys (butt plugs, etc)?

She wants to send us an anal toy? Bring it on!

Click-click for a treat!

A short while later, we received the Crystal Delights butt plug in the mail.  Isn’t it pretty? The plug is 3 1/2″ long overall, 3″ insertable, the stem is 3/4″ wide and it’s 1 3/8″ at the widest point.  A nice size, but not too big for the anal novice (unlike Veronica, my little anal slut ;-) ).  I should mention that since these are hand-made, they won’t all be exactly the same size; ours is slightly shorter and narrower at the widest point but thicker through the stem than the specs given on the product website.

Since Veronica’s the one on the receiving end (though I may try it myself, it wouldn’t be the first time a toy was in my ass), I’ll turn it over to her now….

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Hubman arranged for us to get a lovely butt plug.  It was very attractive and felt pleasantly heavy in the hand.  I also liked the bling that decorated the plug as well.  I was nervous when Hubman put the plug in and for the 1st few minutes, the plug felt odd, kind of like I had to go.  However I quickly got used to the plug and quickly found it arousing.  Having the plug in seemed to realign my lady area and my pussy lips began to feel more friction, which I found very enjoyable and got me very, very hot.

To fully test the plug, I took the kids for a walk around the block.  The friction from the plug was simply amazing.  As I took each step I felt more and more aroused.  I was actually so aroused that when I got home I had Hubman fuck me while the plug was still in my ass and once he got the plug out, he was easily able to slide his cock in without much lube or effort.  (Hubman: For the first time ever, I didn’t lube my cock before I pushed into her ass- the lube from when I inserted the plug and the relaxing effect it had on her were enough!)

I do recommend being careful when you sit on your butt when first wearing the plug as I plopped down on a chair and definitely felt it.  I could easily wear the plug for several hours and find it enjoyable.

I love the plug and will use it often.  I would also highly recommend it to anyone who wants some fun anal stimulation and wants an attractive, subtle looking toy.

What I also loved about the glass plug was that it was very subtle looking, almost like a paperweight.  The only issue could be is that since the plug does not scream “SEX TOY” you might accidentally leave it out like we did.  Of course Princess Persistent found it in our bedroom and started to play with it and ask what it was.  Thinking quickly, I told her it was a paperweight.

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The plug is made out of solid glass, so it’s easy to clean (10% bleach solution, boil for 3-5 minutes or wash in top rack of dishwasher with no soap) and is compatible with both water- and silicone-based lubes.  I’m sure that this plug will become a regular part of our anal play!

Thanks again to Fascinations for sending us the Crystal Delights butt plug, we appreciate it!  And don’t forget to visit their website to shop for all of your sex toy needs!

 

*click-click* for the finale :-)

I’m sure that I’m not the only wanton one this week, click the button below to see who else is playing!

Jun 132010
 

There was a time in our blogging lives when Veronica and I shared many details about our swinging adventures.  Whether is was a first date, nekkid fun with a couple or an epic misadventure, we didn’t hold back.  Well, we did hold back some, at least when our adventures involved the select few blogger friends we’ve played with.  Anyway, thinking about blog posts while playing distracted me during the actual experience.  I can recall several occasions where I was fucking someone and I found myself thinking “Okay, I need to remember the details so I can write a blog post!”  Not good.  Plus, I honestly don’t feel like I’m that good of an erotica writer and was less and less comfortable trying to find the words to write those posts, so I stopped.

Veronica: I think you write some pretty good erotica baby!

But then an afternoon like we had on Thursday happens and I just need to share!

Long-time readers might recall Our (Sorta) Intro to BDSM post from last December.  We knew that Thursday was going to be different when she arrived and we started chatting.

Veronica: We usually start off our visits with a glass of wine and some conversation.  Our Unicorn works as a college professor and is very intelligent and witty.  We chat about random things and soon the topic of conversation moves to sex and then we move to sex.

Each of the previous times we’ve played with her, she lets us know what her Dom would like to see.  It’s never anything outrageous and to be honest it’s fun to incorporate his wishes into our play.  What can I say, I don’t have any problem coming on a woman’s face while Veronica records it on video for her ;-)

This time, she told us she was going “off-script” if only because she felt like it.  We were just going to enjoy ourselves and fuck.  Which was a good thing, because this time WE had an agenda!  Recently in order to fulfill Veronica’s double penetration fantasy, we bought a strap-on harness and dildo set.  Knowing our friend, we knew she’d be game with the idea of fucking Veronica with it while I fuck Veronica’s ass!

Fast forward to that evening- Veronica had to go back to the office for an evening meeting and I was Mr Mom again.  Chatting on Twitter with SexyTigerX, I realized our time with our friend that day resulted in several “firsts” for Veronica and I.

Click it to big it

Can I say, watching Veronica get fucked, fucked hard, by another woman wearing a strap-on was really hot?  I had already come once, leaving our friend with the big mouthful she (and her Dom) wanted, when the girls started playing with the harness and dildo.  Veronica sucking it like she sucks my cock, then getting tit-fucked some, before our friend bent her over and pushed the rather long dildo deep into her cunt and me ready to go again in no time!

Veronica: I will be writing a review on the harness and strap on soon, but let me say that it was very long.

We did get around to DP’ing Veronica together, but not for long.  Apparently the combination of me and the dildo at the same time was a bit much for her and she asked us to stop.  Oh well, maybe we’ll try again some other time…

Veronica: It was a little much as the dildo was very long and Hubman is long and thick (Hubman: if you say so!).  But perhaps next time I will not have to return to work and I can have a glass of wine to relax me so I can better take everything. I also think that our friend was having fun getting to be the top this time as she is usually a submissive. At the very least she liked spanking my ass while she had me bent over the bed.

By this time, our rather anally-inclined friend was ready to get fucked again and asked for it in her ass.  And there was the next first of the day- not 10 minutes after I pulled out of Veronica’s ass and I’m donning a condom and entering another woman’s ass!  Due to some condom issues, I stopped fucking her ass and replaced my cock with a finger while she and Veronica were kissing and touching each other.  I added a second finger and asked which she preferred, one or two fingers in her ass.  Her reply? “Why don’t you try three?”  Well okay then!  And there was the final first of the day!

Veronica: Watching Hubman stick three fingers in our friend was pretty hot, especially since she enjoyed it so much.

I swear, some days I wonder how the hell I got this lucky!

Veronica: Perhaps in a past life you prevented an airplane full of puppies from crashing into an orphanage run by nuns.

The icing on the cake? Later that night I emailed our friend many of the pictures I took that afternoon and told her “We had a great time with you today, as always!”  Her reply?

OMG me too! I love playing with you two. It’s so fun and unusual to be with  couple who is completely NOT jealous, openly and obviously loves being with each other, gets turned on by having a third join them, and can move between worlds. And even though we FUCK and get kinda wild ‘n kinky (love that too)– feel you could actually be friends with these people! ;-)

I think she likes us ;-)

Veronica: I really like her too.

May 042010
 

You ever look forward to something, only to be disappointed in the experience once it finally happens?

I can recall a TMI Tuesday question, once upon a time, about over-rated sex positions.  I wrote about the 69 position and if I remember correctly, so did a number of other bloggers.  Don’t get me wrong, I love to eat pussy and of course I love a good or even a bad blowjob.  But both at the same time? No thanks, I prefer to focus on one or the other.

Add another sex act to the over-rated list.

Double penetration.

Click to really see the expression on her face!

Last summer, while playing with another couple, Veronica had her first and so far only experience with double penetration.  It was late, we were tired, none of us really had any experience with DP, we couldn’t figure out the right position blah blah blah.  Yeah sure I got into Veronica’s ass while she rode the other guy, but I swear I don’t think it lasted more than a minute before we grew a little frustrated and gave up.  Veronica liked it enough to want to try again someday, though we haven’t had the opportunity yet.

Not too long ago, I had the chance to help another couple fulfill their DP fantasy and again, the same issues arose.  Between experimenting with positions, dealing with condoms, both guys trying to find a rhythm AND to stay inside her at the same time, let me tell you, it’s not as easy as they make it look in porn!!

Yeah, I know, that shouldn’t be a surprise- they’re professional fuckers, I’m just an amateur who likes to practice a lot. But still…

It didn’t even bother me, feeling another man’s cock practically touching mine, separated by mere millimeters of flesh.  And while he and I met for the first time earlier that day, she and I had good sexual chemistry since the first time we met several months earlier, so that wasn’t an issue either.

If we get the chance, will I deny Veronica the opportunity to experience a DP again? Of course not.

Will I be seeking out the opportunity? I doubt it.

But you know what I think would be totally hot? If Veronica and I can find a woman with a strap-on to join us! Veronica can ride the fake cock, I can fuck her ass, and there is no concerns about maintaining erections or dealing with condoms.

Ladies, any recommendations for a good strap-on?

Or volunteers? ;-)

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