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We were relaxing at home as a family on Monday evening and I had SportsCenter on in the background. Like every other day for the past week, a featured story was the on-going scandal at Penn State.  This particular segment was detailing the charges against Jerry Sandusky, including the details of a grad student walking in on a child being raped by Sandusky.

Veronica whispered to me “is this appropriate for him to be hearing?”, referring to Darling Boy

At that moment it dawned on me that yes, it was appropriate. He is 11 yrs old, the boy in the shower was 10 at the time, most of the other victims were in the same age range as well.

In the past we’ve talked with him about private parts and where it is or is not appropriate for people to touch others, from a child’s perspective, of course.

With my alma mater continuing to make front page news all week, we’ve had conversations about sex crimes, lying, protecting your friends, media relations, accountability, dealing effectively with a crisis, owning up to your mistakes, and even a little about the (overblown) role of sports and particularly collegiate athletics in modern society.

It hasn’t always been easy for us, or for DB, to have some of these conversations. We make sure to keep it all in context, that this is happening because a grown man had or attempted to have sex with young boys.

The above-the-fold headline of the sports section of today’s Boston Globe reads “Penn State trustees fire Paterno”

DB saw the headline and without prompting declared “dad, I’m glad they fired Paterno”.

He gets it. It’s been a tough week to be a proud Penn State grad, but I’m definitely proud of my little man. He gets it.

Veronica:  And I’m proud of him too.  However, the look on his face as we brought up the topics saddened me.   I never saw him look quite so uncomfortable and nauseous during a conversation with us.  However, they were all very important conversations to have.

 

Darling Boy was working on a book report, Princess Persistent decided to do some coloring, and the dining room table predictably became a crayon and marker covered mess.

[Veronica messed up my shot, just as I had it framed how I wanted, she called PP for her bath, which is why she's walking away from the table]

35mm prime lens, 1/100 sec at f/1.8, ISO 1600

 

On Friday afternoons the after-school program that DB attends takes the kids to a convenience store down the street to get a snack, if they have money. DB looks forwards to this little trip and grumbles if I pick him up before he gets the chance to go. I think it’s less about the actual treat and more a little piece of independence for him, getting to make his own decision and purchase without a parent looking over his shoulder.

Yesterday I picked him up early again, so I told him to take his money, give me his backpack, and I’d meet him back at my truck. A few minutes later he returned with a smile on his face and an ice cream sandwich in his hand :-)

I did make him wait until we got home before he could eat it!

18-105mm lens at 105 mm, 1/20 sec at f/5.6, ISO 200

 

When my step-father passed away last month, my mom gave us a collection of model antique cars and trucks that he wanted Darling Boy to have.

I took DB to Lowes so he could pick out a shelf for them and he helped me put it up, now he has a place to proudly display the collection.

35mm prime lens, 1/15 sec at f/1.8, ISO 800

 

I love cars, especially classic muscle cars. When I was in high school my first car was a ’75 Camaro with a 350. A buddy of mine had a ’69 Camaro SS and we would work on them together. I was very fortunate in that my dad has always been a good mechanic and was more than willing to help me work on my car, which definitely needed it! Making life easier, my high school had a automotive repair vocational ed program and there was a garage facility, complete with hydraulic lifts and pneumatic tools, right on school grounds. The shop was open every Monday night for 3-4 hrs and dad and I spent many evenings there working on my car. Brakes, shocks, exhaust, tune-up, cylinder head gaskets- I told you it needed help!

I discovered that there was a classic car show nearby on Sunday, so I talked Darling Boy into coming with me. While I can’t do too much work on modern cars, I still enjoy seeing what others can do, either restored or customized.

My jaw about dropped when I saw this beauty. ’67 Camaro, 454 big block, 671 blower, 9″ Ford rear-end, 18″ wide tires, this thing is porn for muscle car lovers!

18-105mm lens at 18 mm, 1/2000 sec at f/3.5, ISO 400

(Not sure why I had the ISO at 400 all day, should have been at 200 with the bright sun)

This is a ’71 or ’72 Corvette Stingray, I love the color and how the sky reflects off the body. DB thought that a purple Corvette was NOT cool.  What does he know?

18-105mm lens at 54 mm, 1/640 sec at f/5.0, ISO 400

We stopped at one point, I bent down next to DB, made sure I had his full attention and in a very solemn tone told him “Now son, someday when you’re rich and want to spoil your old man, remember today. See that row of cars there? Any one of those will do just fine”

Because really, owning any of these 3 ’69 Camaros would make me a happy man :-)

18-105mm lens at 18 mm, 1/3200 sec at f/3.5, ISO 400

 

“Dad, my teacher told me I have to cover my textbooks. I don’t know how to do that.”
“Here son, let me show you”

105mm macro lens, 1/13 sec at f/3.0, ISO 1000

 

I looked over at Darling Boy and this is how he laying, so I told him not to move while I grabbed my camera. I think he was like this for several minutes. I asked if the blood was rushing to his head or if his neck hurt. His reply? “Nah”

18-105mm lens at 50 mm, 1/6 sec at f/5.0, ISO 1600

 

I can’t decide what bugs me more about this photo, not the photo itself, but what’s shown.

Sunday was Darling Boy’s birthday. As it approached grandparents asked about gift ideas and we provided some suggestions. In the past my mother and I have talked about how DB is not the Lego fanatic that I was as a kid and that he’s just not into them.

Not only does she disregard our suggestions, she gets him something we’ve talked about that he wouldn’t necessarily enjoy.
Not only does she get a Lego set, she spends $100+ on one. Getting something smaller/simpler just wouldn’t do for her grandson!

Veronica: We were getting DB a laptop and I had asked all the grandparents to chip in.  The MIL asked about sending “something small to open”, so I suggested a SMALL Lego Star Wars Thing.  I was thinking of one of those Lego robots that sell for less than $10.  Someone did not listen to me, sigh.

Here we are, 4 days after DBs birthday, and the set is still sitting unopened on the living room floor. The other day I asked him if he wanted to build the set with me. “Nah, I’m not interested right now”

We’re going to give it another week, if it’s still unopened Veronica and I will return it (my mom at least had the common sense to include a gift receipt). Guaranteed, if it comes to that all of sudden it will be the best gift DB ever received and he’ll be heartbroken that we’re returning it.  Never mind the angst that my mother will give us…

105mm macro lens, 1/6 sec at f/3.0, ISO 1600

Jul 262011
 

Poor Darling Boy, on Sunday he got stung by a bee near his right ankle. It swelled up a little bit but not too badly, so we gave him some Benadryl and Tylenol. He went off to camp Monday morning, but then Veronica got a phone call from the camp nurse around noontime, it was bothering him and seemed to have gotten worse.

I teased DB that if it got any worse, we were going to have to buy him a right shoe 2 sizes larger than the left!

(The marks are from the pediatrician, so that we can keep an eye on the swelling and let him know if it gets any worse despite the Augmentin prescription.)

105mm macro lens, 1/10 sec at f/3.0, ISO 800

 

We’re not exactly a family of green-thumbs, we’re better at killing plants than we are nurturing them. For some reason the kids got the idea that they should try planting a little garden this year. We figured that we would start small with planter boxes on the deck railing.

Darling Boy has his green beans, which appear to be doing quite well!

105mm macro lens, 1/400 sec at f/3.0, ISO 200

Princess Persistent’s carrots don’t look like their doing as well, but we’re not worried. I just hope they do well, or else PP is going to be upset that her veggies didn’t do as well as her brothers!

105mm macro lens, 1/200 sec at f/3.0, ISO 200

 

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