I stepped out of the house Friday morning to just a few light sprinkles of rain. It soon turned into a torrential downpour that lasted for over 30 minutes! I tweeted one photo yesterday morning and pulled over to get a better one with my SLR.
Fortunately today looks like it’s going to be a beautiful summer day. Good thing, Katie and I are going hiking later today and I may finally get to meet Kelly, who might join us 
105mm macro lens, 1/125 sec at f/2.8, ISO 800
Katie was coming over for dinner and I was going to grill some burgers and corn on the cob that Veronica had picked up. I guess the 12 yr old grill has about had it, the upper rack is so rusted it’s about falling apart!
By the way, I love that Katie can come hang out with my wife and kids for the evening, then she and I can escape for a little alone time. I just wish that Katie, who has had girl-girl experiences before, was comfortable joining us for a threesome…
105mm macro lens, 1/15 sec at f/3.0, ISO 200
I was away for work and amusing myself during a quiet evening in my hotel room by sending pictures to Katie while she was at work. Her response is usually a combination of thankful “oh very nice” and naive “how could you? you dirty boy!”
Just as I was starting to wonder what she thought of the random naked pictures I was sharing, I get this text message:
“Oh, my gal pal like it too”
“What?!”
“My best bud Kelly. Sorry I can’t contain my happiness any longer. I needed to show your handsome cock. Please don’t be mad”
Mad? Hahaha, little does she know how much of myself I’ve shown on the internet over the past several years I told her that I wasn’t mad and didn’t mind her sharing with Kelly. I knew of Kelly, she’s Katie’s coworker and running partner, she knew about Katie’s Ashley Madison adventure before she and I ever met and Kelly has been a trusted confidant for her.
“I showed her the one in the shower too. You saw the pic of her”
It’s true, I’ve seen pictures of Kelly, she’s a very attractive (and single!) woman. Now if only I could entice her into sharing some naked pictures of herself. Katie says she’s got a great figure and looks fantastic in a bikini.
Would it surprise anyone to know that I’ve had thoughts of Veronica-Hubman-Katie-Kelly group fun?
Absent motivation (and time) to write a real blog post, you get a brain-dump instead…
Project365 has become a victim of circumstance. I missed a day 3 weeks ago, another day 2 weeks ago, and now I’ve missed 2 days in the past week. Some of the days when I did get a picture, I felt like I was looking for something to shoot for the sake of the blog and for no other reason. Remember when I attended a weekend workshop put on by The Nikon School back in January? One of the instructors said something that has stuck with me- “In the age of digital photography, we’re shooting more than ever, but sharing less than ever.” There are times when I shoot a bunch of photos of the kids or life around the house, but when I look back my efforts went into making sure I had content for Projec365 instead of sharing photos with family. I need to reevaluate my approach and find ways to share memories of the kids with grandparents, etc.
Work has been kicking my ass, but in a good way, lately. Several weeks ago I was given the opportunity to spent a couple of months as interim executive assistant to a senior leader new to our organization. While this may sound like a step down, it’s not, it’s actually a great professional development opportunity and has the potential to improve my career progression and chances for promotion. My new boss arrived last week and we have been VERY busy, we’re just getting started and I put in a 55 hour work week and this coming week looks to be about the same.
Katie and I are doing well, I did manage to escape the office on Tuesday to have lunch with her. I told my colleagues that I was heading off to have lunch with a hot woman, they assumed that I was referring to my wife. If they only knew (Not that Veronica isn’t hot, of course…) We haven’t had quality alone time in a few weeks and with my new job responsibilities it’s going to become increasingly difficult to arrange that. But we’ll manage, she knows what’s going on and understands.
I’m now part of an office of 5 people- my new boss the senior executive, his deputy, a secretary, a public affairs person and myself. I think his deputy is going to drive me batshit crazy. Here’s an example of her management style- an e-mail is sent to both she and I from someone outside the organization. Rather than looking to see that I’m also on the To: line, she forwards (without comment) the message to me. Okay, that’s not really a big deal, I just delete what she forwarded since I already got the message. But 30 seconds after she hits send she’s standing at my desk letting me know what she just did. Really? Apparently she has nothing better to do, doesn’t trust e-mail to work and/or doesn’t trust me to read and react appropriately to e-mail messages.
Another downside to the move is that I’m sharing an office with someone, no more private office for me, at least for the next several months. If you follow me on Twitter you might have noticed that I was VERY quiet during the week. Even if I wasn’t so damn busy, I don’t have the privacy that would enable me to goof off online once in a while during the day. Oh well, they are paying me to work (and paying me quite well) so I guess I can’t complain…
Oh, one bright side besides the professional growth and development is that the public affairs woman is smokin’ hot and has a flirtatious streak. So there’s that
Time to get off my ass and do stuff around the house, the boss and I have a flight this evening.
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AN IRISH BLONDE IN A CASINO
An attractive blonde from Cork , Ireland arrived at the casino. She seemed a little intoxicated and bet twenty-thousand Euros on a single roll of the dice.
She said, ‘I hope you don’t mind, but I feel much luckier when I’m completely nude’.
With that, she stripped from the neck down, rolled the dice and with an Irish brogue yelled, ‘Come on, baby, Mama needs new clothes!’
As the dice came to a stop, she jumped up and down and squealed…’YES! YES! I WON, I WON!’
She hugged each of the dealers and then picked up her winnings and her clothes and quickly departed.
The dealers stared at each other dumbfounded.
Finally, one of them asked, ‘What did she roll?’
The other answered, ‘I don’t know – I thought you were watching.’
MORAL OF THE STORY -
Not all Irish are drunks,
not all blondes are dumb,
but all men…are men.
“Wow, I’ve never seen myself that way before”
Katie was over for a morning of fun and was leisurely riding me. She sat straight up and looked down so that she could see my cock sliding in and out of her pussy.
“You mean to tell me that you’ve never watched a man’s cock penetrate you before? Go nice and slow, I want to describe to you what I like so much about the view. Take me all the way inside then slowly raise yourself up off of me. See how your labia look like they’re trying to hold onto me, stretching out a bit as I withdraw from you? Now lower yourself back down again, slowly. See how they slide up almost inside you? If you can, ride me faster and keep watching”
Katie has generously large labia, the first time we were together I said something about how beautiful her pussy is and she replied that she doesn’t liked how it looks, that she thought her labia are too big.
“Wow, I really like the view! I think I’m going to keep watching, I can’t believe I never did this before”
“I think maybe I’ll grab my phone and take a few pictures, if you’d like. This view is also a big part of what I like about fucking you from behind”
“How about when we have anal, is the view part of the appeal?”
“That’s a discussion for another time. Now get on your knees…”
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On a serious note, I was really happy to be able to show Katie how part of her looks, a part that she wasn’t entirely comfortable with, was actually something that really turns me on. I think it’s a shame when women talk about parts of their bodies that they don’t like and are afraid that a guy won’t like it either.
Veronica has smaller labia, there isn’t the same visual effect when she’s riding me.
Does that mean I like Katie’s pussy better than Veronica? Of course not!
It’s different, but different doesn’t mean better. That’s part of the pleasure of multiple partners, enjoying women in all of their wonderful variety
We received an e-mail from a reader about drastically changing boundaries. She also asked some very good questions about Katie, but first the swinging questions:
I’m a lurker reader and I enjoy reading about how you and your wife approach the lifestyle. I do have a question as I’m trying to help my friend with and was wondering what would you do. I’m sure this will never come up, but try and answer without saying, “This will never happen”
What would you do if your wife said no more solo play at all, that only threesomes?
What would you do if she said your time in the lifestyle was over, She wants to go back to be Mono?
What would SHE do if you decided you didn’t like her having male playmates, but you wanted to continue to be with other women?
My friend is in the last situation. They have been swingers for well over 5 years and now her husband doesn’t want to share her with men, But he wants to be able to play with other woman solo. And only wants his wife to play with woman if he is there to watch or join in.
The first 2 questions that she poses are pretty easy to answer, at least in theory- we approach swinging as something fun to do together, as sport-fucking (but not in the bedpost-notching sense), as a way to live out fantasies. Sometime in the past I’m sure that we wrote that when, not if but when, the day comes that either of us wants to quit the lifestyle, we’ll do that without argument. There may be some disagreement and discussion, but no argument. I love Veronica dearly and we’re growing old together, if she asks me to adjust our boundaries I would happily do that for her and I know she would do the same for me.
If she decided that she was no longer comfortable with my solo play, I would respect that. While 3somes are harder to arrange, we’ve had several3somes with several different woman, believe me it wouldn’t be a sacrifice on my part to “only” have 3somes from now on! Not too long ago Veronica called it quits with a unicorn that we had played with on several occasions and that went as I described- some discussion but ultimately no argument from here.
Veronica: I also think that if I did ask to back off, my asking to quit swinging or quit Katie would hardly come as a surprise since we talk a lot about where we are with swinging and Hubman frequently checks in with me about how I feel about Katie. Hubman and I have taken mini breaks from lifestyle activities when we have busier with other everyday life demands, or when we have been frustrated by the people we are encountering (or not encountering).
The last part of the readers questions, about her friend, strikes me as extremely selfish. I read the e-mail out load to Veronica and her reply was “Are you kidding me? Could he be any more selfish?” Given the extreme selfishness of his request, it seems to me that there might be some underlying issues with the primary relationship that need addressed before they continue with swinging.
Veronica: Since I don’t know much about the couple in question I really can’t make a fair and honest judgement, but on the face of it, he is a complete douchemunch.
Like I said before, she also asked some good questions about my relationship with Katie:
Does Katie know you are seeing other women? I know from experience that sometimes when you get involved with a “Ashley” situation they sometimes expect you to be with them and your wife. Does Katie know you are still swinging with your wife and have many other playmates? How does she feel about that?
Have you and your wife thought about asking Katie to leave her husband and become your second wife? A Poly home. That’s what we did and it has worked out amazing, even better when my husband’s second wife is extremely Bi and into me as well.
Katie does know that I see other women, at least as part as swinging with Veronica. My Ashley Madison profile clearly states that Veronica and I have an open marriage and implies that while I’m on AM there are other aspects to my open marriage outside of AM. While I haven’t contacted anyone on AM in quite a while, Katie doesn’t need to know that my profile is still visible and I would respond if someone contacted me first, someone like Julie. While Katie knows that she’s not the only one I might be seeing outside of my marriage, she’s taking the ignorance-is-bliss approach, and has told me so.
NEVER would I consider asking Katie or any other woman to leave their partner in order to join Veronica and I in a poly arrangement. While Katie’s marriage has its issues and is ultimately headed towards splitsville I don’t want to part of it.
Veronica: While I joke about really, really wanting a stay at home mom variety sister wife, I can’t imagine permanently opening up my home or my marriage to a third like that. I am also not ready to live openly and if I have a triad like that, I am sure I could not keep it quiet for long.
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This is where we ask for feedback- do you have experiences you’d like to share? Disagree with anything that we’ve said? Have we overlooked anything that you’d like to point out? That’s what the comments section is for, so don’t be shy!!
Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships. When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters. These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned. If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.
My phone rang Wednesday night while I was relaxing in my hotel room, it was the guy I was scheduled to work with all day Thursday and Friday- “Hey sorry for the short notice but I have to travel on Friday, we’re only going to be able to meet tomorrow”
I’d been away since Monday morning, the prospect of returning home a day early did not disappoint me.
A quick phone call to the travel agency’s after-hours number and I had a seat on a flight home Thursday evening. Now, do I tell Veronica or do I surprise her and the kids? I think a surprise would be fun!
Then, inspiration strikes.
Friday morning I could skip out from work and see Katie! I know she’s working the afternoon shift at the hospital, once her daughter is off to school she could be all mine for a few hours.
“Wanna get together on Friday? Looks like I may be flying home tomorrow night”
“Oh that would be wonderful. I need to get fucked by you!”
I guess that was a yes! Now for the challenging part, not saying anything to Veronica or leaving hints on Twitter that might lead her to suspect that I was coming home sooner than planned. I stick to the plan all day, then realize that maybe it’s not such a good idea to surprise Veronica by unexpectedly walking in the door at 9:30pm. For all I know she’ll think I’m an intruder and launch something at me before she realizes it’s me.
My flight lands and I take a picture out the window as we’re taxiing to the terminal at Logan Airport. I text the picture to Veronica with one word- “surprise”
“Where are you, is that an airport”
“Yes it is, I just landed at Logan”
“Yay!”
An hour later and I’m home and chatting with her in the living room, when I reveal that I had been planning the surprise since the night before.
Except I don’t tell her about the plans to see Katie.
“So are you going to work tomorrow?”
“No, I’m thinking about staying home, at least in the morning”
“Oh yeah? What time is Katie coming over?”
Damn, Veronica knows me all too well
Not you pervs, not that type of quickie, I’ve only got 10 minutes before I have to finish getting ready to go! Quick thoughts, in bullets…
- there are some high maintenance people in this course I’m attending. Attendance is 100% voluntary yet you’d think someone held a gun to their heads to get them here.
- I need to get out for some exercise, 9 hrs a day in a classroom is NOT helping me reach my weight loss or fitness goals!
- While I’m here I’m able to check out the area that we’re 99.9% sure that we’ll be moving to someday
- It’s a shame to have 6 nights in a hotel room and no one to share it with
- I’m glad I choose to drive rather than fly here. I was able to stop and meet a blogger friend on the way here, I didn’t have to worry about packing light because I was flying, and I have the freedom to get around once I get back to my hotel once the work day is over
- But why did I bring my work laptop? I spent 2 hrs last night replying to e-mails that have accumulated while I was gone
- I’m looking forward to a couple of vacation days when I get back home. And a date with Katie
- Now that we’ve changed training sites, I’m not forcibly Disconnected from the outside world.
- I really need to do better at replying to comments on my blog, I appreciate everyone who takes the time to leave a comment yet I don’t do a good job of showing that appreciation.
Time to go, have a great day!
April was the first to voice her concern:
What happens if her husband finds out? I’m so not judging or picking on you, I’m just curious to know how you’d handle that situation. Say he finds out who you are and calls you. What do you say?
T shares April’s concern:
Yes, I’d be curious to the answer to April’s question too.
Charlie takes the pessimistic when, not if, point of view
It would drive me mad, worrying about when the husband will find out.
These comments all came in response to Advantage, when I first introduced Katie. This is something that Katie and I have actually talked about, she’s had a couple of other partners before me, but each of those were men were 1- or 2-time things, I’m the first man that she’s having an extended extra-marital relationship with.
I certainly don’t want her to get caught, both for my own purely selfish reasons (hey, I like her a lot and she’s really good in bed!) and because I don’t want to cause trouble in her home (yes I know, I could just not be fucking her behind her husbands back. Shut up). I never text her when her daughter or husband might see it and I’ve made sure that her hubby doesn’t have access to the account she uses to e-mail me. She does have a social life with friends and coworkers that her husband isn’t part of (he’s not interested, part of the underlying problems between them), so it’s not really unusual for her to go out for a few hours some evening with “friends.”
Unlike Charlie I don’t think it’s a matter of when, but if we get caught, hopefully we’re careful enough that this is just a hypothetical discussion.
But let’s say Katie and I do get caught by her husband, what would I do? I think the angry husband confronting the man who’s been fucking his wife only happens in TV and movies, I’d be shocked to find him at my front door. And if I’m wrong, I’d play dumb, which some of you might think isn’t too much of a stretch for me.
Katie and I have never had a phone conversation, if I saw an incoming call from her you can be damned sure I’d let it go to voice mail. Generally speaking if I get a call from a number that’s not programmed into my phone, I ask who’s calling before I confirm who I am, so I’m not really worried about that possibility. “I’m sorry, you must have the wrong number, goodbye.”
Back to the question of what would I do if I was confronted by him? Part of me thinks that I’d take the “I think this is something between you and your wife” approach. Did I know she’s married before we got involved? Yes I did. And I also know that she created a profile on Ashley Madison and she contacted me, facts that I would remind him of.
But honestly, I don’t really know what I’d say, probably something about being sorry to cause him pain but that with all due respect, this is something that needs worked out between him and his wife.
What do you think, dear readers? Have any of you been caught in an illicit affair and if so how did you react? I’d love to hear from someone who found out that their spouse was having an affair, what would you say to me?
No real underlying theme this week, maybe I’ll try that again this coming week. I do have to say, I ended the week on a naughty note, make sure to read all the way to the bottom of this post
On to this weeks photos, as always click on any photo to view full-sized in a new window.
Day 65 Maui Jim- Last Saturday I broke down and finally replaced my old sunglasses. I had lost them, but as scratched as they were, losing them was a blessing in disguise!
Day 66 Dirty- It was so nice and warm out, I got out my bike for the first time this year! The roads were pretty wet from all of the melting snow, so I ended with a rather dirty bike
105mm macro lens, 1/15 sec at f/3.0, ISO 800
Day 67 Town Hall- It took me 10 minutes of walking up and down the street leading up to the front of Town Hall to get an unobstructed shot, I swear I’ve never been on a street with so many power, telephone and cable lines crisscrossing it!
105mm macro lens, 1/250 sec at f/8.0, ISO 200
Day 68 Helicopter- The previous weekend Veronica took the kids to NY to visit family. DB returned with this Lego helicopter, courtesy of a grandparent. Of course PP just had to “help” him assemble it.
105mm macro lens, 1/20 sec at f/3.0, ISO 2500
Day 69 Train- 30 seconds sooner and I would not have gotten stuck waiting 10 minutes for this freight train to pass by. Oh well, I just put my truck in park and tweeted away the time
105mm macro lens, 1/80 sec at f/2.8, ISO 250
Day 70 Water Damage- Last winter I posted a photo of frost heaves and still haven’t done anything about the root cause of the problem, which has only gotten worse, as evidenced by the shifting paving stones on the walkway. I’m getting estimates from some landscape contractors now…
105mm macro lens, 1/50 sec at f/3.0, ISO 800
Day 71- Lunch with Katie. Yes, that’s just a photo of the passenger seat in my truck, it requires a little imagination. After Katie and I enjoyed lunch we had about a half hour before she had to head home, so we drove an area I thought wouldn’t have many people around so we could have a little fun, the same park where I took this photo.
Imagine this- Katie is sitting sideways in the seat, leaning back against the door, her tanned and muscular legs are draped over the center console. Her skirt is up around her waist and she’s pulled her pink g-string aside so that I can have easy access to her wet pussy
She texted me later that day- “Oh I had to fuck myself when I got home, you drove me crazy today, thank you!”
18-105mm lens, 1/15 sec at f/4.2, ISO 800
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I need to figure out formatting in this new theme, I’m not really all that happy with how image captions appear…
