RIP JoePa

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Jan 272012
 

When the Sandusky scandel broke at Penn State last fall, I insisted that Joe Paterno had to go. I wrote

As a proud Penn State alumnus, I was trying to tune out the news from Happy Valley in the last few days. I think Joe Paterno is on the Mt Rushmore of college coaches and for 4+ decades his program has been the standard-bearer that all other programs are compared to. Even at their 3-9 worst in 2003, I maintained that on reputation alone, Joe Paterno alone should be able to decide when his coaching career should come to an end.

The local sports talk radio station that I enjoy, and that NEVER talks about college football, couldn’t stop piling on Joe, that because of his failure to bar Sandusky from the Penn State football facilities after he first learned of child sexual abuse allegations in 2002, his entire legacy was tarnished. After JoePa died last Sunday, it started all over again.  In many ways what he failed to do is unforgivable, but when looking back at someone’s life, I think it’s a shame to focus on any one thing.

This reader email to Andrew Sullivan’s The Daily Dish sums it up nicely for me

Why do so many people feel the need to ask, “In light of the scandal, how do we remember Joe Paterno?” Why can’t we remember him and his life exactly as it happened? One heinous act does not undo all the good he did in his life, much like a major kindness does not undo a life of evil. Joe Paterno was an excellent football coach whom many considered to be a paragon of morality, good will, dedication and service. But he also made mistakes, most notably he failed to act on information concerning the safety of children and in all likelihood enabled the further abuse of children. But most importantly he was a human, and like all of us he is neither black nor white, but some shade of grey. The need to classify him into a category of “good” or “evil” seems like folly to me.

I think there’s a lesson here for all of us.

As far as his grand experiment, that a nationally-competitive football program didn’t have to sacrifice academic standards?  I think it was a success, Penn State was rank FIRST in this years Academic Bowl.

Jan 052012
 

When I graduated from Penn State, Veronica gave me a miniature replica of the Nittany Lion Shrine, it sits on a shelf just above my computer at work.

I’m not sure what I did differently, but I really like how sharp and crisp this photo came out :-)

105mm macro lens, 1/13 sec at f/3.5, ISO 400

 

[Check out today's Project365 photo of the day for something a little sexier]

We were relaxing at home as a family on Monday evening and I had SportsCenter on in the background. Like every other day for the past week, a featured story was the on-going scandal at Penn State.  This particular segment was detailing the charges against Jerry Sandusky, including the details of a grad student walking in on a child being raped by Sandusky.

Veronica whispered to me “is this appropriate for him to be hearing?”, referring to Darling Boy

At that moment it dawned on me that yes, it was appropriate. He is 11 yrs old, the boy in the shower was 10 at the time, most of the other victims were in the same age range as well.

In the past we’ve talked with him about private parts and where it is or is not appropriate for people to touch others, from a child’s perspective, of course.

With my alma mater continuing to make front page news all week, we’ve had conversations about sex crimes, lying, protecting your friends, media relations, accountability, dealing effectively with a crisis, owning up to your mistakes, and even a little about the (overblown) role of sports and particularly collegiate athletics in modern society.

It hasn’t always been easy for us, or for DB, to have some of these conversations. We make sure to keep it all in context, that this is happening because a grown man had or attempted to have sex with young boys.

The above-the-fold headline of the sports section of today’s Boston Globe reads “Penn State trustees fire Paterno”

DB saw the headline and without prompting declared “dad, I’m glad they fired Paterno”.

He gets it. It’s been a tough week to be a proud Penn State grad, but I’m definitely proud of my little man. He gets it.

Veronica:  And I’m proud of him too.  However, the look on his face as we brought up the topics saddened me.   I never saw him look quite so uncomfortable and nauseous during a conversation with us.  However, they were all very important conversations to have.

 

As a proud Penn State alumnus, I was trying to tune out the news from Happy Valley in the last few days. I think Joe Paterno is on the Mt Rushmore of college coaches and for 4+ decades his program has been the standard-bearer that all other programs are compared to. Even at their 3-9 worst in 2003, I maintained that on reputation alone, Joe Paterno alone should be able to decide when his coaching career should come to an end.

Disclosure- I’m not just a proud alumnus, I have multiple connections with the football program. I’m NOT unbiased when it comes to Penn State football. Veronica also has connections, she used to work for someone on the board of directors of The Second Mile, and we both spent some time inside the football team facility.

If you don’t follow sports news, this article from the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette lays out the timeline of events starting in 1994/5.

Did Joe Paterno do the right thing, legally speaking, by reporting what he learned to Athletic Director Tim Curley? Yes, I believe so. It’s what he DIDN’T do that is bothering me, and why I think he has to go.

After Joe Paterno was informed that Jerry Sandusky may have sexual abused boys inside the Penn State football facility, JoePa didn’t take away Jerry’s access to the facility. Keep in mind that Jerry found his victims through The Second Mile that he founded in the 70s. It’s easy to envision him using his position with the football team and access to the facilities as tools that he used to help him curry favor with these boys and give him a place to commit his alleged crimes.

Veronica: And I have to admit, the 1st time I got a tour of the football team facility I was giddy as a school girl.  At 34.  I can only imagine the effect access to the football facility had on a sports loving tween.

JoePa didn’t take that access away from Jerry Sandusky. He could have. He SHOULD have, and for that failure to act, I think the only honorable thing left for him to do is resign.

Veronica: I  have to agree.  I also think that there is a lot of shame to go around.

For those of you who want to crucify JoePa for not doing more, here is an excerpt from a great piece on Deadspin

Sandusky was Paterno’s colleague (and one would assume friend) for over three decades. So imagine someone coming up to you and telling you that your friend of 30 years was raping a kid in the shower. Would you believe it? Would you want to believe it? Probably not the first time you hear it. Would you go to the police? What if the grad assistant was wrong and your friend’s life is ruined because of a misunderstanding? You might not even want to explore the matter further because you can’t tolerate the idea of someone you trusted doing such monstrous things. I think the reason Paterno went to his AD and didn’t go to the cops is because it provided him with the chance to have it both ways. This way, he was able to “report” it, without having to be the person who takes the significantly braver step of actually calling the police. Problem solved. Conscience cleared.

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I haven’t mentioned the kids, the alleged victims of these monstrous crimes. My son is the same age as some of those boys, I can’t imagine how I might respond if DB fell victim to a person like Sandusky. I hope they get the help they’re going to need.

Veronica:  I can.  And I would happily go to jail for the violent bludgeoning death I would inflict upon the person who would dare do those things to either of my children.  And my thoughts and prayers go out to those young men.  I also wonder if Mrs. Sandusky knew anything about all this, since these boys allegedly spent a lot of time with the immediate family.

As for Sandusky, I’ve heard that in prison society those who sexually abuse children are looked down upon as the worst of the worst. Should the allegations prove to be true, I hope that the prison guards look the other way.

Veronica: We can only hope.

 

On our way from upstate NY to my moms in the Pittsburgh area, we had to stop by Penn State University’s Berkey Creamery.

The food science program was good enough for Ben and Jerry, yes THAT Ben and Jerry, when they wanted to learn how to make ice cream, so how bad could it be?  Pretty damn good, actually!

For an extra $5, not only do you get the neat thermal bag, they even fill it with enough dry ice for the trip!
We got 2 pints of Peachy Paterno (really!) for my step-dad and 1/2 gallon of Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough for the rest of us.

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