Jan 122012
 

Because there’s an interesting discussion that I feel I have something to add to

Because I want to lend some support or encouragement

Because there’s really no good reason at all, but I felt like it anyway

Or even because she looks really good naked and I want to encourage her photo sharing :-)
Don’t tell me that you’re surprised by that!

But you know why I don’t comment? Because of some “blogger etiquette” that compels me to comment on someone’s blog for the sole reason that they commented on mine.

Yesterday I remarked on twitter “Wow based on blog stats & (lack of) comments, you really don’t care when naughtiness is implied instead of explicit for #WantonWednesday”. It wasn’t meant as a gripe about lack of comments, it was meant as more a reflection of what kind of content is likely to generate comments, though I can see how it might be misinterpreted. That’s okay though.

It turns out that my tweet was a conversation starter, leading someone else to make the “blogger etiquette” comment.

Am I guilty of doing that in the past? Yes, no doubt, but it didn’t take me long to realize how the game was played. There were people who sat back waiting for comments, then whoever commented would get the “courtesy” of a comment in return.  There were the equally meaningless “nice photo” comments as well.

I understand, commenting is part of self-advertising. You’ve started a blog and you’d like to develop a readership, so you visit (or have already been visiting) bloggers with similar interests. You hope that people will wonder who you are and visit your blog to find out, and that they’ll like what they see and stick around.

I don’t know about other blogs, but I looked at my stats and in the history of this blog (and it’s wordpress.com predecessor) only about 1% of visitors will leave a comment. “Lurkers” are a fact of blogging life.

Leave a comment if you’d like, or don’t, it’s okay either way.

But if you’re commenting only because you’re expecting me to reciprocate, please don’t.

There are a lot of reason why I may leave a comment, but a sense of obligation isn’t one of them.

Dec 232011
 

At least for adults. I’ve had mixed feelings about Christmas gift giving for a while now and I came across a post that sums up my feelings quite well:

Why do we buy each other gifts? Why do we go to the trouble? So everyone can have to fake more excitement and gratitude than they actually feel upon opening them? “Oh, thanks for this book I told you I wanted that I could have just as easily bought for myself! Thanks for these gloves, this blouse, this bottle of wine. I’m so glad to have this pile of stuff to pack into the car or check at the baggage claim when I could have just bought it on my own time nearer to my own home, or even had it delivered directly to my door. Here, I got you something, too.” It’s like we’ve all entered into this mutual pact that makes everybody’s lives a little bit worse. All anybody really wants is money anyway. And since there is a quid pro quo element to the stupid gift-giving tradition, we should all be getting back pretty much what we’d pay out. So let’s just skip it. Or establish a credit system. My gift to you is relieving you of the obligation of getting a gift for me. The gift of relaxation. The money you would have spent on me? Go buy yourself something you want with it. There. We’re even and happier.

Read the entire post here.

What do you think, dear reader?

Feb 262011
 

I don’t know about you, but the US budget is so big as to be damn-near beyond my comprehension. Until I came across this piece from Slate excerpted on The Daily Dish. Here is the premise- President Obama’s budget he sent to Congress for FY12 is $3.73 trillion, while taking in $2.63 trillion in revenue. That’s proportional to a household that earns $60,000 spending $85,000!

How is Uncle Sam spending that $85,000?
$17,400 for Social Security
$10,700 for Medicare
$6,100 for Medicaid
$13,600 for other mandatory programs such as food stamps

So far we’ve spent $47,800 or over 3/4 of our $60,000 income on “mandatory” expenditures. Yikes…

Now we still have to consider what falls under discretionary funding
$20,000 for the Department of Defense
$5,500 for interest on existing debt
$10,400 on everything else, that is, non-mandatory/non-defense, items

Here are a few bits and pieces of that $10,400
$400 on energy
$500 on agriculture
$1,000 on housing and urban development
$1,800 on education

Chris Christie, governor of New Jersey, summed up my thoughts pretty well

“Let me suggest to you that what game is being played down here is irresponsible and it’s dangerous. We need to say these things and we need to say them out loud. When we say we’re cutting spending, when we say everything is on the table, when we say we mean entitlement programs, we should be specific. And let me tell you what is the truth. What’s the truth that no one is talking about? Here is the truth that no one is talking about: you’re going to have to raise the retirement age for social security. Oh I just said it and I’m still standing here! I did not vaporize into the carpeting and I said it.

We have to reform Medicare because it costs too much and it is going to bankrupt us. Once again lightning did not come through the windows and strike me dead. And we have to fix Medicaid because it’s not only bankrupting the federal government, it’s bankrupting every state government. There you go. If we’re not honest about these things, on the state level about pensions and benefits and on the federal level about Social Security, Medicare, and Medicaid, we are on the path to ruin,” – governor Chris Christie.

While I understand people’s passion about the Republican’s attempts to de-fund Planned Parenthood, for example, the dollar amounts involved are a fucking joke, it’s all about symbolism and pandering to their base. If only we as a country could work up the same passion for seriously seeking solutions to those big-ticket items that are driving us to financial ruin, perhaps our fiscal future would look a little brighter.

Feb 222011
 

I’ll start by saying that I really enjoy Twitter, damn near any time of day ( or night, do some of you ever sleep?) there is someone there I can chat with, and I don’t even follow that many people. I’ve made friends, found new blogs and websites to read, and with my vanilla account keep up with several news and sports sites and personalities.

But some things on Twitter just fucking annoy the hell out of me

Follow Friday
Or is it Friday Follow? I don’t give a shit, either way it annoys me. For the uninitiated, Follow Friday or #FF in hashtag-ese is a way for people to suggest people that they think are worth following. Here’s how NOT to do it, an actual tweet from last week:

#FF @EmpPalp @eva_knievel @evrythingmustgo @hannahsatana @hubman38 @JackSht @Joey_bagodonuts @JohnnyHardass @jeffwcpa @Lord_Voldemort7

Just a list of people, no reason why any of them are the least bit interesting. To top it off, the person who posted that tweet has never interacted with me and I don’t follow them back. So why on earth are they suggesting that others follow me? My timeline on Fridays is full of crap like that, the only thing that is worse are the people who tweet over and over and over, listing seemingly everyone they follow, as if every one of them needs to be followed by the rest of us. Even better are the people who re-tweet every tweet that they are mentioned in- “hey look at me, someone said you should follow me, so I’m going to repeat it to everyone who already follows me”

The only time I’ve done a #FF, it looks something like this: #FF @VeronicaASM because she’s smart, sexy, and funny. Never mind that she’s married to me :-)

Maybe my reason for suggesting her sucks, but at least I’m giving you a reason why I like her.

Locked Accounts

See that sidebar on the left? There are my latest tweets, or here is my Twitter page where you scroll back as far as you like. You see, you don’t have to have to follow me on Twitter or even have a Twitter account to see what I’m saying, but not all accounts are like that, some people feel the need to keep their accounts private, only people they approve can see their tweets. Now I’ll admit that there may be perfectly good reasons for doing so, a psycho ex-, for example, or if a work-group is using Twitter as a means of communication.

Others, it’s like a power game. “Oh, Mr zero tweets and following 100 people, you want to follow me? I don’t think so”

Why not? It’s social media, why are some people so damn anti-social about it? It’s like there’s some secret litmus test people have to pass in order to be allowed to follow someone.

Me? I want to be approachable, not snobbish. And it that means I have a bunch of spambots and people who never interact following me mixed in with the people I regularly interact with, so be it.

Following back

You’re following me? Thank you. But don’t expect me to follow back out of some sense of courtesy. I follow people who I find interesting, who have something to say, who like to engage others in a conversation. I see Twitter as a big room filled with clusters of people talking about a wide variety of topics. You’re standing quietly at the side of the room saying nothing? Sorry, I’m not following you back. You’re talking non-stop but never listening to what others say, even when it’s something in response to something you said? I’m not interested in monologues, I like conversations.

So don’t get pissy with me if I don’t follow back. And feel free to unfollow me if you don’t like it, I won’t mind in the least.

That’s enough, I could go on, but I’ve done enough ranting for one post…

 

Time: 9:30am
Place: Yard

With the 40 mph+ winds that came with the snowstorm, snow drifts were inevitable.  On one hand, parts of my driveway were practically devoid of snow.  On the other hand parts of my driveway had 2 ft of densely packed snow…

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Monday evening I was sitting on the couch and noticed this car in the street down the block a little bit.  I watched it for a few minutes, it was obvious no one was in it, it was just sitting there.  It bothered me enough that I had to get dressed and go outside to see just how much it was blocking the street, since from inside my perspective was off.  Is anyone surprised that I brought my camera outside with me?

Who parks like this?  Oh right, some asshole who thinks the world revolves around him…

 

I was going to write something last week when I learned about the ordinance passed by the San Fransisco Board of Supervisors, but didn’t get around to it.  Did you hear about that, they’re going to ban toys in fast food happy meals in order to help combat the childhood obesity epidemic?

Give me a fuckin’ break.

No doubt, childhood obesity is a serious problem, but anyone who thinks that a largely symbolic measure like banning toys is going to do anything about it is delusional.  What about the parents role?  Do we take our kids to the golden arches once in a while? Sure we do, once in a while.  Veronica and I are the responsible ones, it’s up to us to set limits and enforce them.

The article I saw in the Boston Globe about this ordinance had this quote from a mother in reference to kids begging for happy meals: “If the babies don’t get what they want, then they won’t stop crying.”  Who is in charge lady, you or your kid?  Yeah, sometimes kids don’t like the decisions that their parents make, too bad.

Behind every overweight kid is (most likely) an overweight parent, an ordinance like this is nothing more than politicians and special interest groups paying lip service to a serious problem in order to make themselves look good.

[I realize that the ordinance doesn't outright ban toys, it sets restrictions on what kind of meals they can be offered with based on calories, sodium and fat content.  The core issue is the same.]

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Then it got better this week.  Have you heard of the drink called Four Loko?  This concoction is sold in a can and has both a significant amount of alcohol and a big dose of caffeine.  Here is an excerpt from a FDA press release the other day:

FDA Warning Letters issued to four makers of caffeinated alcoholic beverages

These beverages present a public health concern

November 17, 2010 – The U.S. Food and Drug Administration today warned four companies that the caffeine added to their malt alcoholic beverages is an “unsafe food additive” and said that further action, including seizure of their products, is possible under federal law.

FDA’s action follows a scientific review by the Agency. FDA examined the published peer-reviewed literature on the co-consumption of caffeine and alcohol, consulted with experts in the fields of toxicology, neuropharmacology, emergency medicine, and epidemiology, and reviewed information provided by product manufacturers. FDA also performed its own independent laboratory analysis of these products.

“FDA does not find support for the claim that the addition of caffeine to these alcoholic beverages is ‘generally recognized as safe,’ which is the legal standard,” said Dr. Joshua M. Sharfstein, Principal Deputy Commissioner. “To the contrary, there is evidence that the combinations of caffeine and alcohol in these products pose a public health concern.”

Experts have raised concerns that caffeine can mask some of the sensory cues individuals might normally rely on to determine their level of intoxication. The FDA said peer-reviewed studies suggest that the consumption of beverages containing added caffeine and alcohol is associated with risky behaviors that may lead to hazardous and life-threatening situations.

Let me ask you this- how are these drinks any different from any number of mixed drinks that you can get at just about any bar?  Captain and coke, Jack and coke, Seagrams and 7, Jager bombs, are these all now going to be banned?

My new favorite news blog, The Daily Dish, had this summary of the FDA’s actions

The manufacturer of Four Loko caves to federal pressure by agreeing to remove the caffeine. Sullum sums up the FDA’s approach:

In short, a caffeinated alcoholic beverage targeted at “young adults” is “adulterated,” while exactly the same beverage targeted at middle-aged drinkers is not. The FDA is not really banning drinks; it is censoring speech.

He follows up with some parting words:

For those who are worried about what will happen when their stockpiles of genuine Four Loko run out, BuzzFeed has instructions for making your own at home. For those who want to stay awake while they’re drinking but would not touch a declassé drink like Four Loko with a 10-foot tongue (why am I thinking of Freddy Krueger all of a sudden?), New York Times restaurant critic Frank Bruni reviews hoity-toity coffee cocktails served by boutique bars in Brooklyn and Manhattan. Something tells me these drinks, despite providing a pharmacologically identical experience, will never inspire a moral panic like the one that drove Four Loko and its ilk from the market.

So what do you think, dear readers, are these just more examples of the nanny state run wild or are the San Fransisco Board of Supervisors and the FDA’s actions justified?

 

With the end of summer upon us and thoughts turning to the beginning of another school year, I wonder how many people think of a college education in investment terms. Probably not as many who should.

Think about these numbers: between Veronica and I, we have 5 degrees, BA and MA for her, BS, MS, and Ph.D. for me.  I had 1 student loan for less than $5000 and Veronica had about $15,000 in loans for our undergraduate degrees.  Our graduate degrees?  Not a single penny in loans.  My Ph.D. cost me no more than whatever I laid out for textbooks and parking permits, probably less than $1000 over the course of 4 years.  The return on that investment?  I’m making about $40,000/year MORE than the job offer I turned down when I decided to go back to school.

Now consider my dad’s girlfriend’s granddaughter (got that?), she’s the one who spent the past year studying abroad in Italy and got my dad and his gf to come visit her.  She just started her 3rd year at a college that costs somewhere in the neighborhood of $40,000 per year.  And guess what? She still hasn’t declared a major!

$80,000 invested so far, without a fuckin’ clue how she’s going to utilize that investment!  And don’t get me started on her parents idiocy, blindly assuming debt in the form of student loans so their daughter can do what exactly?

But I’ll cut her a little slack, a lot of people start their undergraduate education without knowing just what they want to study.  Look at me, I started out as a physical education major and now I’m a biomedical researcher!  What really bugs me are the people who complete their undergraduate education then continue on to graduate school for what are frankly pretty dumb reasons- “I’m interested in such and such”, “Well, since I can’t get a good job with my degree”, “I think it would be cool to study such-and-such”.  Intellectual curiosity and a love of academia are fine and dandy, but considering what school costs, those alone aren’t enough.

How about these reasons?
- You’re on a career trajectory that is going to plateau if you don’t continue your education and you’re pursuing a concrete career goal
- There’s actually a market for the skillset/knowledge that you’re pursuing.  For example, while Harvard is a fine institution of higher education, I’m skeptical that the price tag for a graduate degree in Germanic Languages and Literature is really worth it, unless you’re independently wealthy.
- State licensing mandates a graduate degree (teachers, some therapists, social workers, etc)

When I was pursing my doctorate, I worked in a lab with 3 other students, 2 of whom started the program right after completing their undergraduate degrees and 1 who like me who worked for several years before returning to school (that would be my former office wife Lisa, you remember meeting her, right Emmy?).  Three years after we all graduated, I’m thrilled with how my career is progressing (regardless of 10 weeks away from home!) and Lisa’s grant-writing and publishing record thus far is quite enviable.  Professionally-speaking, our careers are exactly where she and I wanted them to be at this point.

The other two, the two that started the program immediately after completing their undergraduate degrees, aren’t doing as well.  C is on her 2nd post-doc, barely earning a decent wage and floundering along without direction, not sure what she wants to do.  Not a good situation to be in, 4 yrs after earning a Ph.D.  And L has a decent job working for a major sports drink manufacturer in their R&D group, but it’s not what she really wanted, it’s more where she ended up due to our advisers influence, not her desire.

I could cite other examples, but you get the idea.  Work for a few years, find your passion, and THEN figure out if graduate school is what NEED, not just WANT.  Otherwise you could be saddling yourself with a financial burden that will take years to get out from under.

You disagree with me?  That’s what comments are for, lets hear it!

From Surviving the World, one of my favorite daily reads, always something good!

Jul 212010
 

Yes, I have not one, not two, but THREE laptops in my hotel room.  Why?

Front and center is my personal computer, my Macbook Pro that I got a few months ago.  I couldn’t imagine going without it.

The Dell on the right is my work computer that I brought with me.  But there’s a problem- it’s basically useless right now.  It’s configured so that the wireless card is only enabled when it’s not connected to a LAN.  Except I’m not connected to a LAN in my hotel room and the wireless card isn’t working.  Until I move out of the hotel and into the other lodging arrangement that has a LAN, I can’t check my work e-mail (encryption issues).

The Dell on the left?  Guess what they didn’t tell us- every student would be issued a computer for the course!  Unfortunately, while the wireless card does work in that one, it’s configured to only recognize the router at the schoolhouse or to work on a LAN.  So just like my work computer, it’s useless in my hotel room.

Just another reason why I can’t wait to get out of this hotel and into better housing arrangements for the remainder of my time here…

Jul 202010
 

Signs like this one are posted around the hotel parking lot and I’ve also seen them around town and on billboards.  I guess there is a bit of a burglary problem here in San Antonio.  But really, do people really need to be told this?

Now this sign just annoys me.  It’s on the side of the hotel, near the sign shown above.  As far as I know, if someone breaks into my truck (well, not my truck, I’m careful not to leave anything valuable in it!), whatever they take isn’t “lost”, it’s “stolen”.

And this is why Veronica refers to me as literally man…

Jan 202010
 

And she kicked me in the ass!

Today our submissive unicorn friend was supposed to come over for a couple of hours of nekkid fun.  Veronica had arranged for the day off from work and I was going to work a half day, but not requesting to have the time off ahead of time.  Instead, I was going to tell my boss that we had a sick kid at home, but Veronica had some work stuff she couldn’t cancel or miss, so I would have to be at home for half the day.

You know where this is going, right?

Princess Persistent really is home sick! Tuesday afternoon daycare calls Veronica to tell her that PP has spiked a fever and needs to go home.  Which means she won’t be allowed back for 24 hours, so we had to contact our friend and cancel.  Fortunately, she’s a mom too and understood and we hope to reschedule with her soon.

So much for celebrating hump day with 2 hot and sexy nekkid women :-/

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To further irritate me [I'll admit, I was grumpy because of having to cancel with our friend], when I get to the day care center I find PP bundled up and headed outside with her classmates.  Let’s review a few facts, shall we?

  • She has a 101-point-something fever
  • They are sending her home ASAP and not allowing her back on Weds [per policy]
  • It’s about 35 degrees out and raining

Anyone else see why I was perturbed?  To the centers credit, they encourage at least some outside playtime every day, even if only for 15 minutes, and ask that kids have appropriate clothing to do so.  Plus, there is a 40′x40′ covered play area, so they weren’t necessarily going to be in the rain. So taking the kids outside is perfectly normal.

But our daughter is sick and I’m on the way to get her because they’re sending her home!  Why is she going outside in a cold rain?  If you follow me on Twitter, you might have seen the angry tweet I fired off when I left.  Veronica saw it and promptly called the director of the center.  Fortunately, not only is Veronica calmer than me when irritated [I tend to yell and cuss at people who piss me off, which isn't exactly productive, or so I'm told...], but she also used to work for the day care company in their corporate office.  If nothing else, Veronica has maintained a good relationship with her former boss aka the CEO of the company, and the center director knows that.  She was very apologetic and promised to have a word with PP’s teachers.

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On the bright side, with no influence from us Darling Boy declared that he would like to donate some money from his piggy bank towards the relief efforts in Haiti.  Veronica is telling the story on her blog today.  I think it’ll make you smile, you should check it out!

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