One of the many reasons I love Veronica?
Getting ready for a weekend excursion, she makes sure I’m prepared.
If you don’t see me posting here or on Twitter much this weekend, it’s reasonable to assume that a friend and I are doing our best to use up this box 
I’m sure I’m not the only wanton one today, click the button to see who else is playing
A woman I follow on Twitter posted something a few days ago asking about condoms and size. It seems she had a potential partner coming over later that evening and being a responsible woman she had some condoms available. However, she only had Trojan Magnums, the “larger than standard condoms” for the larger than average man. (Yes, she could/may should have had regular size condoms available but she didn’t, so let’s move on.)
Veronica: Personally, I think that if a guy is coming to play that he should bring his own condoms. It’s good to have condoms around just in case, however, I am also the woman who brings a hostess gift to swinger parties, so it may be a thing I have about showing up to someone’s house empty handed.
The problem was, she didn’t know if he was in fact large enough to where one and she was concerned with how he might react.
Veronica: I’m thinking flattered.
Honestly, and I don’t want this post to be about my size but I need to mention it, I’ve wondered if I could/should wear a larger sized condom. Am I larger than average? Yes, I believe I am and I’m comfortable saying that (there might a couple of ladies out there who have remarked something to that effect…), but large enough to *need* a Magnum?
I’ve written before about having issues with condoms, whether it’s maintaining my erection while wearing one or having difficulty. Often I’ve attributed that to the setting (public play, usually) or a lack of connection with the woman, but I have wondered if condom fit contributed. Yes, condoms are remarkably elastic, but that completely discounts the issues of sensitivity and stimulation.
What if I pull out a condom in the distinctive gold wrapper and she’s like “oh yeah right buddy, as if you need that”
How about the opposite, she only has regular size condoms but he *needs* the Magnum?
I will say this- it’s the man’s responsibility, especially if he’s of larger size or if he is picky about brand or material (latex, synthetic, lambskin, ribbed, etc) to bring his own.
Veronica: I think that if you are going to be meeting someone for sex you should bring a condom. There is no such thing as being too prepared.
I came across a handy method for determining if someone is well-endowed, as least with respect to girth (which is really what we’re talking about when talking condom size) – if a guy can not insert his erect cock through a standard toilet paper tube then he may need a large size condom.
Veronica: I have a philosophy about shoes that carries over to condom. It is the shoes job to fit me, not mine to fit the shoes. If a pair of shoes makes my feet unhappy, I don’t buy them no matter how cute they are. I think the same applies to a condom. At the end of the day its your body and you need to wear what makes you comfortable. If your partner can’t appreciate that or makes snarky comments about your condom choice, then you shouldn’t be fucking them.
A note about comments on this post- as always I welcome comments including ones that disagree with whatever I have to say, but I don’t want comments about my endowment, or lack thereof, thankyouverymuch.
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This is where we ask for feedback- do you have experiences you’d like to share? Disagree with anything that we’ve said? Have we overlooked anything that you’d like to point out? That’s what the comments section is for, so don’t be shy!!
Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships. When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters. These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned. If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous or not. The full archives can be found here.
Sometime in the last 3 years I’m pretty sure I already posted this, but I came across it again and it made me laugh so I’m sharing it again.
I received a cryptic direct message not too long ago from a friend on Twitter- “I’m about to get into a situation and I need some advice.. I defer to the master.. Got a minute?”
I’ll wait a minute for the laughter at the thought of me being the master to die down…
The basic gist of her situation is that she has found not one but two local fuck-buddies and was concerned about her obligation, if any, to let either of them know about the other. For what it’s worth, one of the men is single, like my friend, and the other man is married but cheating.
I told her that she has no obligation to tell either of them about the other. I asked, she assured me that she always practices safe sex with each of them. My opinion would have changed either she had been monogamous with either of them and the decision had been made to fluid bond and go sans protection, but that wasn’t the case here.
I think that a fair assumption when dealing with open relationships or swinging is that whoever you’re playing with isn’t just playing with you.
Veronica: I am going to agree with you here. Unless you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, you are under no obligation to share any of your extra-curricular activities, whether it’s having another fuck-buddy or a mild Dairy Queen addiction, it’s none of their business.
Mmm, Dairy Queen…
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This is where we ask for feedback- do you have experiences you’d like to share? Disagree with anything that we’ve said? Have we overlooked anything that you’d like to point out? That’s what the comments section is for, so don’t be shy!!
Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships. When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters. These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned. If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous or not. The full archives can be found here.
Maybe I’ll write about Sunday night one of these days. All I’ll say for now is, it’s nice to reunite with a friend 
Laying on top of her naked body, her long legs are spread wide and my hard cock is resting on her pubic bone as we kiss.
Wouldn’t it be nice if I could just slip my cock inside you without having to bother with a condom?
Yes, it would, but we can’t do that!
I know, I’m just thinking out loud
But yes, it would be nice, condoms can be such a pain
But we both sleep with too many other partners for that to be realistic.
And that’s the best part of our relationship! We can say things like that and neither of us are offended!
She’s right, we can basically say “you’re a slut who has several other partners and my trust only goes so far”, and there are no hurt feelings. Because safe sex and protecting our primary partners is that important and we both understand that.
…by a stripper. And I don’t mean that she got my money and I went home with blue balls, not by any means. This is a true story from Sept ’08 that was originally posted on my pre-Wordpress blog. This took place 3 days after our very first swap with another couple.
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Several weeks ago, Veronica and I had a fun time spending the afternoon in a strip club, particularly getting to know a dancer we’ll call D that I had met on a previous visit. Noteworthy about this particular lady was her interest in seeing Veronica and I outside of the club for expressly carnal purposes
Last week I had an evening plane flight for a work-related trip and it just so happened that the route to the airport would take me right past this club. The day before my trip Veronica inquired if I was thinking about leaving home early and stopping by the club to see D. “If you don’t mind” was my reply. “Just tell her I said hi!” And off I went…
On Monday I wrote about our weekend adventures and alluded to not everything being so good when Veronica and I swapped partners with another couple. After some reflection and some support and advice from 2 female blogger friends (you know who you are, and thank you again!) I chose not to blog about the details, but I will say now that I had difficulty performing with K, which bruised my ego and psyche a wee bit, to say the least. In short, while I did eventually rise to the occasion, the experience was not one that I care to repeat.
And here is where these seemingly unrelated stories merge…
And we have further evidence of just what an amazing woman my wife is…
The day before my trip, Veronica announced to me that while I’m at the club, should the opportunity to have sex with D arise, either right then (considered at the time to be an unlikely possibility) or at a later date, without Veronica present, I was free to do so!!!!!!! The very first time I met D, she had suggested that we could meet outside the club sometime, even though I mentioned that I was married and did not play that way, and she gave me her phone number anyway.
And before you think we are opening up are marriage even more than just occasional swinging, Veronica made it clear to me that this was a onetime only offer, “and don’t get used to it, buddy!” [Reader this again, 18 months later, all I can think is bwahahahahahaha]
I think it is a mild understatement to say that I was shocked by her offer! We talked a bit about her motivation and agreed to sleep on it. While I desperately wanted to accept her offer (not that there would be any guarantee of getting laid!), I did not want to do so if it would cause any problems between us. I had to be completely confident that she would be OK with my fucking D (and not someone else, as this offer was for D only) without her being part of the action. The next morning, we talked a little more and she was still comfortable with her offer and did not want to take it back.
So, why would Veronica offer me this gift? (And really, is there a better word?)
You see, as we have recently disclosed to our dear readers, Veronica and I will be meeting with the wonderful SwingerWife and her husband in 2 weeks for a very, very naughty weekend getaway. Considering the issues I had with K, she wanted to do what she could to help me restore my confidence. Practically speaking, neither of us wanted to travel a few hours, get into the hotel room with SwingerWife and her husband, only to have the same performance issues re-surface.
(Right now I know that SwingerWife is reading this and saying “you didn’t have any chemistry with K! She wasn’t your type! You and I have great chemistry!” She is correct, of course, but still, lingering concerns remained…)
[SwingerWife's blog is long gone, so there's nothing to link to]
I arrive at the club, get a soda, and make myself comfortable, politely dismissing other dancers after my money and wondering if D is even working today. Just as I’m starting to worry that she’s not there, she appears, comes over to give me a kiss and asks where Veronica is. I tell her about my flight and the solo trip today, and she excuses herself to visit a regular customer with a promise to find me when she is done with him.
A short while later she joins me at my table, we make some small talk, and I give her a brief account of our recent foray into the swinging lifestyle. We also talk about our mutual desire for the 3 of us to get together outside of the club someday. I then mention that Veronica has given me permission to see her outside the club on my own, should the opportunity arise. D immediately tells me that Veronica is the best wife ever, but we all know that, don’t we?
We head upstairs to the private dance area, which needs some description. There are 2 rows of ~ 4×4’ booths, each with a bench seat. Beyond this area is a curtained off area I had not been too before. She starts her dance for me, and just as during my previous visit there is a lot of contact.
The exact words escape me, but I recall saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to see you outside of the club someday to fuck you”, to which she replies “you know, we can do that in here right now!” Excuse me, can you say that again?!
D explains the other dance area. There are 4 or 5 booths identical to the ones we are in now, but each one has a privacy curtain, and there is no surveillance or other club staff in that area at all. She explains that there is $40 fee to the club to go back there but that each dancer is free set their own fee, typically $150-200, for the 20 minutes that the initial $40 bought. D, apparently just as horny as I, tells me she won’t charge for the dance I’m getting now, nor will she ask me for anything for herself. Just to be clear, I ask what we can do back there to which she replies “you can fuck me”. Let’s go!!!
I pay the bouncer the $40 club fee and off we go. No sooner are we behind the curtain than we pick up right where we left off a few minutes earlier, but without the worry of another random dancer passing our booth and seeing my fingers in her pussy or her hands down the front of my shorts.
In short order she unzips my shorts and takes me completely into her mouth, bringing me to full attention. A condom appears, she squats over my very erect cock and sits down, taking me to the hilt on the first stroke.
Yes, I had a very good time!
Yes, my performance anxiety concerns were most definitely alleviated!
She rode me to a fabulous orgasm and by the sounds she was making and the throbbing of her pussy it seems that she had a pretty good time herself!
Afterwards she hung out with me back in the main club area until I had to leave for the airport. D mentioned that I should have Veronica text her sometime, as she still wanted to discuss getting together with the both of us, so that she could play with Veronica (D is bi, yeah!) and they could give me the double blowjob they teased me about the last time we were there together!
And I told Veronica all about my afternoon with D as soon as I left the club!
I have the Best. Wife. EVER
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My how things have changed! One thing that hasn’t changed is that Veronica is still the Best. Wife. EVER!!!!
This is my contribution to the monthly group post organized by Kimberly aka The Errant Wife. Check out the other bloggers below for how this month’s prompt “I got fucked” inspired them. Swing Shift will be posted tomorrow.
Ronjazz
Petal
Adulterous Letch
Britni
Autumn
they belong to us
Veronica
Topaz
Dreamwalker
Gray
Bri
Spring Flower
And our hostess, Kimberly
My Swing Shift post on Monday reminded me of the very first time that I bought condoms. Or rather, I was unknowingly dragged along on a condom buying trip…
In June of 1987 I was 17 yrs old and still a virgin [and would be for 3 more years, until Veronica forced herself upon me, had mercy on me and I met]. Among my good friends were Monica and her boyfriend Nick, and our mutual friend Jane. Monica is a year older than me, Jane 2 years younger. Jane was [still is, actually, we're still friends and stay in touch] a very pretty brunette who just happened to have a pretty serious crush on me. I knew about her crush but didn’t act on it. Why? God only knows…
Monica was graduating high school that year, and we were all at her house for a big family and friends graduation party. Sometime during the afternoon Jane finds me, says that she needs to get something from the store, and could I please drive her there. So off we go.
Who knows what we talked about, but I never asked what she needed to get. We get to the store and continued chatting while wandering the aisles.
So, which ones do you prefer?
I realize that she’s stopped in front of the shelves with all of the condoms.
Come on, you must have a preference?
I’m pretty embarrassed right about now. Here I am, 17 yrs old, with a girl 2 years younger than me, talking about condoms. I’d never even gotten close to needing condoms yet and her brazen demeanor had me kinda rattled. Not that I was some smooth operator in the first place…
Did I mention the middle-aged woman working the cash register and watching us? Yeah, that didn’t help.
I ask Jane to stop messing with me, and could we please just get whatever we came here for and go back to Monica’s party.
But this IS what we came here for!
As it turns out, Monica and Nick wanted to have sex later that day once the party was over, but didn’t have any condoms. She couldn’t exactly leave during her own graduation party, so she asked Jane if she could help her out.
Who knows what the woman working there thought of us- the nervous and rattled 17 yr old guy and the confident 15 yr old girl who is taking charge of the condom purchase. I couldn’t get out of there soon enough!
Postscript: Years later, Jane confided that she was pretty sure I would be embarrassed, so she decided to mess with me that day. As recently as this past June, 22 yrs later, I saw Jane, this story came up in conversation, and we shared a good laugh at the memory!
Have a great weekend!!
My friend April [remember, DB and I had dinner with her and her son when we were in Washington DC in late September], who always leaves good comments and suggestions, inspired this weeks edition of Swing Shift. Knowing that I had the great fortune of having not 2 but 3 women in bed with me at once when Veronica and I were in Las Vegas, she wrote:
I know when my ex and I played with one girl, we didn’t use a condom and he freely went back and forth, fucking us. But then other times, we would have a lot of foreplay before he put on the condom. He would then fuck her, while I played with her various body parts, then take off the condom and finish with me. Other times, we bought more condoms so more fun could be had. Although switching condoms became somewhat of a mood-breaker. So, maybe you could give advice on how to handle the condom situation with multiple partners? What do you think?
First of all, I’m jealous of your ex. I’d love to be able to alternate between partners without dealing with condoms. To be able to pull out of another lovers pussy and slide right into Veronica’s mouth. Or cum inside another woman then watch Veronica eat my cum out of her. Mmm, maybe someday the right circumstance will come along…
Anyway…
As I’ve written before, I always wear a condom when having vaginal or anal sex with anyone other than Veronica. So if I’m with more than one woman, neither of whom is Veronica, I’ll put on a new condom whenever I switch partners [listen to me, writing as if this has happened more than just that one time in Vegas!]. Before the fun starts, I always make sure a stash of condoms is in easy reach of wherever we’re playing. Because nothing ruins the mood like “Excuse me, I’ll be right back”, then leaving our playspace in the basement while I run upstairs to the bedroom for condoms, because I forgot to have supplies on hand.
I’ll be honest, sometimes in the process of opening the condom and putting it on I’ll lose my erection a little bit. But what guy hasn’t had that happen? Ladies, if that happens to your guy, you better be understanding! You know what you can do ladies? Help out. Veronica has rolled a condom down my cock numerous times. “Let me help you with that, honey. There you go, now you’re ready to fuck our friend”. Yeah, no problem maintain an erection when that happens!
Veronica: We just make the condoms part of the play. Since Hubman and I do not live in a porn movie, threesomes are generally not a surprise for us. We have designated play places in the house and we keep a stash of condoms there so we have plenty around when we need them. Usually Hubman is not switching back and forth between both ladies much so the condoms do not get in the way. When we are having a threesome I usually encourage him to fuck the other girl, since I am around for sex all the time and he should maximize his sex time with the new person while I lick her clit. Ooops, I digressed. Sorry about that. No one really wants to hear about exactly what Hubman and I do in bed with others.
I also like to put the condom on Hubman before he has sex with the other partner. I see it as my carefully wrapping up Hubman for our guest.
We’ve been in the lifestyle for a little over a few year now. During that time, I’ve ALWAYS used protection during vaginal and anal sex with others, as has Veronica. But condoms aren’t perfect and we’ve both had plenty of unprotected oral sex with others. So just as a precaution, as few weeks ago I called the local Planned Parenthood office and made an appointment.
Two things really struck me about my visit, both negative.
When I walked into the Planned Parenthood center last Wednesday afternoon, the first thing I see is a guard and a metal detector. I had to put anything metallic in a basket and pass thru the detector in order to proceed to the reception area that was through another door. In the reception area, the staff was behind very thick, possibly bulletproof, glass. It’s just a goddamn shame that there are people in the world who make these security measures necessary.
I sit down with a nurse and in a straightforward manner tell her that my wife and I sometimes have oral, vaginal, and anal sex with other partners, other women for me, men and women for her. I tell her that there is no cause for concern, it’s just that she and I feel that getting tested is the responsible thing to do. So she collects a urine sample and draws some blood to test me for gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphillis and HIV. I’m then shown to a private exam room and joined by a nurse practitioner, who looks over my paperwork, asks why I’m getting tested (I tell her the same thing I told the nurse), and tells me that I should get a phone call in 3-4 days if anything comes back positive, otherwise I can get a copy of my test results within 2 weeks.
I fully expected to be lectured, even just a little bit, about the risks of casual sex with multiple partners. Nothing, not a single word of caution. Maybe they felt it wasn’t necessary with me? Maybe they save that for the 17 yr old kid who comes in with an infection? Who knows…
In any event, I’m glad I went and got tested. I’m sure that as we continue in the lifestyle, while it was my first time getting tested, it won’t be my last.
I know some of you are wondering. No, I did not get a phone call, I’m clean.
Veronica: I have not had much of a conversation with my doctor about my non-monogamous life. I remember when I went in a little over a year ago (pre-lifestyle) to complain of some pain and bleeding during sex (my mom is only 2 years past a uterine cancer diagnosis and full hysterectomy, I have ANY issues and I’m at the gyno’s ASAP). The doctor asked me about the frequency of sexual intercourse. I inform her that I have sex between 6-8 times per week. She grabbed my chart and asked why I was having sex so much since I clearly was not trying to get pregnant (I’m on the pill to keep me from being an evil hormone addled disaster & Hubman has a vasectomy) I shrugged and explained that was just our sex life. She made a comment about my needing “pelvic rest” for a week and I got the feeling she did not approve of my frequency. This has made me reluctant to speak to her about anything regarding an alternative life style.
I had a different Nurse Practitioner this year and I alluded to having sex with women and using toys, and she did not ask me about testing of any kind, but did tell me that I should make sure that if anyone was putting their fingers inside me to make sure they washed their hands first, and told me that I should thoroughly clean and dry my toys after using them.
I considered either changing my doctor or going to Planned Parenthood myself for testing. However, since I have good insurance and am confident of my medical information being confidential part of me would rather use my insurance.
Sometimes I think I should change my gyno, but they take very good care of me. Due to my mom’s health issues, my file has been blue flagged by them, so if I call with any ladybit issues, I can often get an appointment for the same day. However I am not comfortable discussing my sex life with them so in the end, are they the best physicians for me?
However, how do I find a doctor that’s lifestyle friendly, will take my insurance and is close by? Sexual health is not something you exactly bring up at parties. Beyond making sure that condoms are non-negotiable it has been my experience that no one really has an extended discussion about sexual health. Do my other non-monogamous friends feel that way as well?
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So there you have it, a little about how we incorporate condoms into our play with others and a little about getting tested. As always, your thoughts, comments and stories are most welcome. And if you prefer to remain anonymous, just e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com.
Where are the snorkels?
This weeks questions come from a new reader who just found my blog a few weeks ago. She wishes to remain anonymous, and I don’t even know if she has a blog of her own, so we’ll all just have to wonder who she is. She and her hubby are thinking about getting into the lifestyle and had several questions for us:
Whats up with guys photos? How come many couples don’t show the guy? We put a few pics of both of us. Should we do more of her? Keep it even? None of him? Is it the allure of her, so people will then contact you, and have to ask for his?
And meeting another couple for the first time - if you meet in public for say dinner or drinks. Are you going dutch? Offer to pay?
And if at dinner you really like a couple – do you have a signal you give each other that you each like the couple, so your ready to go farther? Or do you not do anything on the first meet up? We were thinking of some kind of sign so we didn’t need to go off together and talk about it. kwim? What do you and Veronica do?
Ok and I think our last question. What about blow jobs? Condoms on? off? depends? if so …. I guess the non latex?
We think pictures are extremely important. We’ve stated numerous times that for us swinging is really just sport-fucking and freely admit to only wanting to fuck good looking people. After all, we like to think that we’re at least half-decent looking ourselves.
Veronica: I like to see pictures of both the guy and the girl. I think more profiles are skewed towards female photos, because men are usually the ones surfing the profiles. This of course is not based on hard scientific fact, but rather the anecdotal evidence from chatting with couples. For me, the whole process is kind of like shopping. First I will check out the pictures of the girl, if I feel they match up with what Hubman likes (and I am rarely wrong), I then look at the pictures of the guy, if I like the guy, then I carefully read the profile. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of reading the profile carefully. If the profile is a match, I then call Hubman over for a consultation and if he agrees with my assessment, then I send the email. (Want to know my opinion on crafting a good email? Just ask.) I also agree on the having sex with attractive people. I am married to a very good looking man, I want to have sex with people that are at least as attractive (and well-endowed) as Hubman is.
To us, an ideal profile is one that shows several pictures of the woman and of the man. Clothed is fine, we just like to see enough to know if they have good bodies and take care of themselves or not. Some nekkidness is always good, but certainly not necessary. Our Swappernet public picture gallery has 5 pictures. There are 3 of Veronica, including the one at the left which is our main profile picture. There is also another picture of her ass and one of her tits and upper body. There are two of me, one from the front, partly dressed [remember my old Blogger avatar of me laying on the bed in a pair of black Calvins? That one] and one of me nekkid from behind. Because I think Veronica isn’t the only one in the house with a nice ass *wink*
I’m immediately skeptical, and I’m not sure why, of the profile with a dozen pictures or more of her and none of him. Something is up with that. We certainly don’t expect to see a face picture in someone’s public gallery, as we don’t have one. But you should either have face pictures in your private photo gallery or be willing to share one via e-mail before meeting for the first time. We learned that lesson the hard way… Our private gallery has more pictures, including two face pics of us together, plus pictures of Veronica sucking my cock and a full frontal nekkid [but not aroused] picture of me. What we don’t have are any ridiculous close-ups of her pussy or of my cock. I guess what we go for is sexy and revealing, but still tasteful.
Veronica: I like a tasteful picture. I am not a big fan of cock shots. One, I want to know about the whole package, not just the one in your pants and two, unless you have a cock that is large enough to need its own zip code, I can’t gauge size if you are talented with camera angles unless you’ve got your manhood next to a ruler. I also do not like gynecological textbook quality shots of the ladies. If I am going to see your pussy that close up, I want to have my tongue out and ready for action.
Meeting a couple for the first time, our preference and what we’ve always done is to meet for dinner and drinks somewhere. That’s a good no-pressure way to meet and allows see if there is chemistry between us [because it's not ALL about looks!]. We’ve always gone Dutch on the check and never considered offering to pick up the whole tab, to tell you the truth. If we were meeting a single individual, it might be different, but 2 couples, we’re just splitting the check.
Which brings us to our anonymous readers next question. As a general rule, we don’t play on a first date. We have before, and don’t regret doing so, but those are exceptions, and we let the couple we’re going to see for the first time know that before the date [keep in mind that there is nothing really unusual about our approach to first dates, as most of the couples we've known do the exact same thing].
We go on the date assuming that we’ll like the couple and will want to see them again. Don’t forget, by this time we’ve seen pictures and chatted on the phone, so there is some connection already. But, if it goes sour in person, Veronica and I have a code phrase. If either of us utters the code phrase, that clearly communicates “in no way do I want to see these people again”. If Veronica uses it, no matter how hot the woman is and how good of a connection she and I have, we won’t be getting nekkid together. We DO NOT take one for the team- we’re both into the couple or not. No “I’ll fuck her because she really wants to fuck him” for us. That is one of our unbreakable rules. Click here for a recent Swing Shift post about the pitfalls of not insisting on seeing their faces ahead of time, which is also a good example of time one of us invoked the code phrase.
Veronica: If you take no other piece of advice away from Swing Shift, please make it the ‘no taking one for the team’ rule. It can only lead to resentment and issues.
Lastly, about safe sex- don’t ask us. Seriously, safe sex decisions are between you and your primary partner. Long before Veronica and I ever fucked anyone else, we talked over various scenarios and decided what we’re comfortable with. Rather than repeat what I’ve written before, I’d like to direct you to this post from last winter, which spells out our thoughts quite clearly, I think. And I’d encourage you to read the comments on that post as well, as there was quite a good discussion. There was also a short follow-up post here.
On a somewhat related note, Kimberly aka The Errant Wife wrote a great post about sex bloggers and condoms. Click here to read it, if you haven’t already done so.
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Thanks to my anonymous reader for some great questions! I’m looking forward to any comments people leave today. As always, feel free to leave additional questions in the comments section or e-mail me at hubman38 at gmail dot com if you’d prefer to remain anonymous.
Darling Boy are traveling home from Washington DC Monday, so I’ll respond to your comments when I get home later. I also hope to write about the rest of the trip and share some more pictures of the sights and hopefully I’ll have that for Tuesday.
Oh, I almost forgot!!! DB and I meet a blogger friend and her son for dinner on Sunday, the lovely April of April’s Random Showers! She is even cooler [and better looking, if that's possible] in person, and she said she’s gonna write a post about our meeting. I’ll be sure to link to it when she does!
