A woman I follow on Twitter posted something a few days ago asking about condoms and size. It seems she had a potential partner coming over later that evening and being a responsible woman she had some condoms available. However, she only had Trojan Magnums, the “larger than standard condoms” for the larger than average man. (Yes, she could/may should have had regular size condoms available but she didn’t, so let’s move on.)
Veronica: Personally, I think that if a guy is coming to play that he should bring his own condoms. It’s good to have condoms around just in case, however, I am also the woman who brings a hostess gift to swinger parties, so it may be a thing I have about showing up to someone’s house empty handed.
The problem was, she didn’t know if he was in fact large enough to where one and she was concerned with how he might react.
Veronica: I’m thinking flattered.
Honestly, and I don’t want this post to be about my size but I need to mention it, I’ve wondered if I could/should wear a larger sized condom. Am I larger than average? Yes, I believe I am and I’m comfortable saying that (there might a couple of ladies out there who have remarked something to that effect…), but large enough to *need* a Magnum?
I’ve written before about having issues with condoms, whether it’s maintaining my erection while wearing one or having difficulty. Often I’ve attributed that to the setting (public play, usually) or a lack of connection with the woman, but I have wondered if condom fit contributed. Yes, condoms are remarkably elastic, but that completely discounts the issues of sensitivity and stimulation.
What if I pull out a condom in the distinctive gold wrapper and she’s like “oh yeah right buddy, as if you need that”
How about the opposite, she only has regular size condoms but he *needs* the Magnum?
I will say this- it’s the man’s responsibility, especially if he’s of larger size or if he is picky about brand or material (latex, synthetic, lambskin, ribbed, etc) to bring his own.
Veronica: I think that if you are going to be meeting someone for sex you should bring a condom. There is no such thing as being too prepared.
I came across a handy method for determining if someone is well-endowed, as least with respect to girth (which is really what we’re talking about when talking condom size) – if a guy can not insert his erect cock through a standard toilet paper tube then he may need a large size condom.
Veronica: I have a philosophy about shoes that carries over to condom. It is the shoes job to fit me, not mine to fit the shoes. If a pair of shoes makes my feet unhappy, I don’t buy them no matter how cute they are. I think the same applies to a condom. At the end of the day its your body and you need to wear what makes you comfortable. If your partner can’t appreciate that or makes snarky comments about your condom choice, then you shouldn’t be fucking them.
A note about comments on this post- as always I welcome comments including ones that disagree with whatever I have to say, but I don’t want comments about my endowment, or lack thereof, thankyouverymuch.
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Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships. When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters. These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned. If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous or not. The full archives can be found here.
To us, an ideal profile is one that shows several pictures of the woman and of the man. Clothed is fine, we just like to see enough to know if they have good bodies and take care of themselves or not. Some nekkidness is always good, but certainly not necessary. Our Swappernet public picture gallery has 5 pictures. There are 3 of Veronica, including the one at the left which is our main profile picture. There is also another picture of her ass and one of her tits and upper body. There are two of me, one from the front, partly dressed [remember my old Blogger avatar of me laying on the bed in a pair of black Calvins? That one] and one of me nekkid from behind. Because I think Veronica isn’t the only one in the house with a nice ass *wink*
