[For those of you who are STILL coming here from my old blog, you can thank Dangerous Lilly for teaching me how to set up the 10-second redirect. She's sexy, stacked, and web-savvy? What a combination! Thanks Lilly!]
I was amazed at all of the comments my post about safe sex generated yesterday. ["Safer Sex" would have been a better title. Thanks, Dana!.] When I asked for people’s opinions, I was not seeking validation or approval of how Veronica and I participate in the lifestyle. We wanted to share our thoughts and experiences, in part because we know that there are readers who are not involved in the lifestyle but are considering it.
The points I wanted to make, successfully or not, included:
- Communication is of utmost importance. You and your partner(s) must agree on and respect each others choices regarding the use of protection
- We are all consenting adults, making decisions based on our individual comfort levels. Veronica and I agree on what we are comfortable with and firmly stick by our ‘rules’. Others may willing to take more or less risk in their own sex lives. Of utmost importance is that you do what you and your partner(s) are most comfortable with. And don’t let someone coerce you into compromising your comfort level. Some of you feel strongly that we are engaging in downright dangerous behavior. We respect your opinions. Thank you for sharing them.
- One point I failed to make is that what we consider “safer sex” may be situational. Before we played with either SwingerWife and her husband or Southern Vixen, they were first and foremost people we consider friends. [By the way, Veronica and I got to know SwingerWife because we contacted her with a whole bunch of naive questions as we where getting into the lifestyle. After we met with them, Southern Vixen read about our adventures on SWs blog, and in turn contact me with questions, as she was getting into the lifestyle!!] In the course of getting to know one another and discussing the lifestyle, we talked about safe sex practices. As a result of those discussions, Veronica and I had no qualms about doing what we did. No, we did not see STD test results, nor did we ask. But we knew them well enough that we didn’t feel the need to. Then there is Max and Irma. They are a married coupled, with a few experiences several years ago, so they have been monogamous for a while. Again, we were not unduly concerned about certain sexual activities with them. On the other hand, neither Veronica nor I will go down on a woman we just met at a hotel meet and greet, nor will Veronica let a man she just met at a party ejaculate into her mouth. We don’t know them and we have no clue about their safe sex practices, so we would be more cautious under those circumstances. Does that distinction make sense?
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I’m drafting this post while I’m sitting downstairs and Veronica is upstairs getting the kids to bed. My phone beeps with a text message:
“I am looking forward to my ass pounding tonight. My pussy is tingling in anticipation.”
So I replied “You naughty little slut! I’m looking forward to pounding that ass!”
“I am your naughty little slut and my ass is yours” was her response.
And yes, the reference to pounding her ass was literal….
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On to the TMI!
1. When you sleep with someone, how much or how little contact do you like to have?
Veronica and I usually hold each other close when we first go to bed, but we inevitably separate somewhat to get comfortable before drifting off to sleep. Oftentimes I’ll fall asleep with a hand on her thigh or on the curve of her hip.
2. What do you think there is a appropriate amount of time for a divorced parent to date before introducing the kids to the “new” “special” person in their life?
No, I don’t. Every situation is different. How old are the kids? Was it an amicable divorce or not? Just how “special” is this new person? Hopefully the parents are thinking of these questions.
[My parents divorced when I was 16, after a 2 year separation. Dad starting living with his girlfriend within a yr or 2 (I think he met her while divorce proceedings were underway), but Mom stayed single for a while. She met my stepfather when I was 21 and married him a year later. Both mom and dad are still with those individuals today...]
3. Which ONE do you wish you had more of in bed… romance, experimentation or foreplay?
Umm, none? My sex life is spectacular and I couldn’t ask for anything more. [Note to self: check Veronica's answer later and update mine accordingly...]
4. What do you thinks makes a kiss great?
Kissing like she means it. Not too aggressive, like you’re trying to devour my face. And I hate wet, sloppy kissers and smokers breath.
5. Describe your sex life in two words.
Absolutely perfect!!!
Bonus (as in optional): Do you remember a time when you were having sex that you smile or even laugh about now? Do tell….
Of course! Many of my experiences bring a smile to my face. And if you can’t laugh during sex, what’s wrong with you?
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