ESPECIALLY when you’re talking about fucking someone else’s spouse
Now of course manners always matter, saying please, thank you, holding doors for people, we all (okay, most of us!) know to do that. Navigating the open-marriage waters? There are some things you should do that are just plain good manners AND will help if you want a repeat experience!
Several years ago, I had my first experience hooking up with a blogger friend, without Veronica there with me. Veronica of course knew all about it, and there was some back-and-forth between them before I met up with her. A day or two after the friend and I spent several hours fucking each other silly, she emailed Veronica
“Thank you for sharing hubman with me, that was awesome”
THAT is good manners! Should I have the opportunity to meet up with this friend again, I know that Veronica would be cool with it, because Veronica knows that my friend appreciates her sharing me.
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Probably 6 months ago, an online friend was going to be spending some time in my area. We talked about getting together for dinner, one thing lead to another, and we planned to meet where there was also a hotel nearby.
Knowing that she and her hubby enjoy having someone join them together, but that she doesn’t typically play alone when away from home, I contacted him. I had a simple message- I wanted him to tell him “thank you”, even before she and I had met.
We ended up having to cancel meeting, family obligations intervened, but should the opportunity arise again, I’m confident he’d be cool with it, because he already knows I appreciate him sharing his wife.
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Good manners extends to swingers parties and clubs. I can recall Veronica initiating some fun with the male half of a couple who were hosting a party. I was sitting back and enjoying the view, of them and of action going on in the house. As Veronica sank to her knees and took his hard cock into her mouth, he looked at me and silently mouthed “this okay?” to me. I just nodded and smiled, that was all he need to know it was okay with me.
Later that night, he walked passed me and discretely said “thanks man”. That’s good manners!
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Why did these thoughts occur to me today?
Earlier today I was texting with a friend, she lives somewhere in our general area, we’ve had fun with her before, and have had non-naked fun with her several times as well. The three of us are definitely friends first, a little naked fun once in a while is just a nice part of our relationship.
For the first time, she and I are planning on getting together without Veronica.
As we were texting, she also texted Veronica, to make sure it’s okay with her. Again, that’s good manners!
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The moral of the story? If someone shares their husband or wife with you, be thankful! Consensual non-monogamy isn’t easy nor should it be taken for granted, a little common courtesy goes a long way.
*Especially* if you hope to fuck that person again someday!









