In the 3+ years that Veronica and I have been swinging and then progressed to an open marriage, I’ve never had jealousy issues with her enjoying other partners. Oddly enough though, I have experienced feelings of jealousy with other partners.
Long-time readers may remember SwingerWife. She and her hubby had a blog, which I came across before Veronica and I ever had our first full-swap experience (or before I even had a blog, now that I think of it!). We struck up a friendship and they became long-distance mentors to us, later we met up and had a memorable weekend of sexy fun. Shortly before we all met, she and her husband decided to open their marriage and see people separately. To this day I can remember her calling me barely 5 minutes after “Chad” left her house after they first time they fucked, and how excited I was to hear about it.
Once she and I had our fun together, it changed for me, I wasn’t comfortable hearing about her latest adventures with him. It got to the point where I told her I didn’t want to hear any details, and that I wouldn’t be reading any blog posts about him.
Was it jealousy? I’m not sure, but I think it was, and it was a foreign feeling to me, especially since I wasn’t experiencing any jealously with Veronica.
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Fast forward to this fall, I had a little getaway with a Twitter friend, we spent 2 memorable nights together. Since then, she and I have each had fun with other partners and have shared some details of those adventures with each other.
A week or so ago, she had a little getaway with another friend of hers. Unlike 3 years ago when I couldn’t handle hearing SwingerWife’s adventures, this time around I’m genuinely happy that my friend had so much fun and can’t wait to hear the dirty details.
What’s different? Is it the benefit of experience and growing emotionally and mentally as a swinger?
Your guess is as good as mine, all I know is that I couldn’t be happier the swinging adventures that Veronica and I share, and that we share with our friends
Veronica: In my opinion I think that your ‘jealousy’ with Swingerwife was just being new with the whole swinging/open marriage concept, and now that you have experience with sharing, it’s less of an issue. I also think that we have not experienced jealousy with each other because we are both very secure in our primary relationship, and we follow up with each other so much on how we are feeling about our experiences.
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Swing Shift started in June of 2009 in response to questions we received from readers interested in swinging and open relationships. When we started swinging we had on-line friends who were our mentors, helping us navigate the open waters. These posts are our way of paying it forward and sharing our lessons learned. If you have a topic suggestion or question for a future Swing Shift, contact me at hubman38@gmail.com and indicate if you’d prefer to remain anonymous or not. The full archives can be found here.









