HNT- Gag Order

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Dec 092010
 

Veronica has imposed a gag order on my blogging about potential playmates or dates.  Yesterday I wrote about a date with a new couple that we had scheduled for last night.  And what happened?

It’s been postponed!

The thing is, I’ve done this before, about 18 months ago we felt like we were jinxing ourselves by writing about couples before we connected with them.  I wrote “I resolved not to mention the next couple, whoever they may be, until there was something worth writing about”.

So much for that resolution, the next time I’ll listen to Veronica!

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Speaking of Veronica, she doesn’t have an HNT up, but she instructed me to bring my camera to the bedroom for in the morning, and she’s sleeping in a skimpy little g-string, so you never know!  In the meantime, visit Osbasso to see who else is getting half-nekkid this week.

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Date Night

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Dec 082010
 

Life has been pretty slow on the swinging front for the last several months, mostly because that’s how we wanted it.  Last spring we were getting frustrated with flakes and fakes, and with my impending 10 week trip to Texas we decided to take a break.  Once I returned we started browsing profiles and contacting people again, but weren’t trying too hard.

There was a possible unicorn, but that didn’t quite work out.  We also said goodbye to another unicorn.

A couple of weeks ago a local couple caught our eye, so we contacted them.  We exchanged a few messages and pictures, but that’s nothing to get excited about, that’s happened many times before.  However this time has been different- Veronica and Sandy have spoken on the phone, which lead to the 2 of them hanging out on a recent Saturday afternoon while John was away on business and I was home with the kids.

There is an interesting wrinkle with this couple.  Their profile says that they’re looking for a couple for full-swap, but after we contacted them they said they were reconsidering that and were instead thinking about just looking for a single woman to join them, at least for now.  They asked if we would still be interested and after some discussion between Veronica and I, we said that we are.

Sounds a bit like hotwifing, doesn’t it?

I figure that Veronica’s been pretty generous with giving me the freedom to play without her when we’re apart, so I thought I’d keep an open mind and see where this goes.

In the meanwhile, Sandy and I have been texting and emailing some, I don’t know for sure but I wouldn’t be surprised if they’ve reconsidered and they want to play with Veronica and I together.

What might happen at their house tonight?

Maybe nothing, only the ladies have met in person so far
Maybe the sparks will fly and we’ll have our first full swap in months
And maybe they’ll still want to just play with Veronica, for now
At which time I just might drive home and leave her there to rock their world

Whatever happens, I’m looking forward to meeting them!

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Guess Who’s Back?

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Nov 222010
 

Long-time readers, or anyone who was curious about “The Tale of Ned and Ann” page above, might remember them.  The cliff notes version goes like this: we meet them for dinner, felt the chemistry right away.  They came over our house a week or so later, Veronica cooked dinner, they met the kids, we continued to have a good time with them.  After the kids were in bed and sound asleep, the 4 of us went downstairs for some play time.  Unfortunately, it went downhill from there.  Both Veronica and I were disappointed in them as lovers, we just didn’t click that way.  Since for us swinging is primarily about gratifying group sex experiences, we weren’t interested in seeing them again.  However they didn’t quite get the message, which lead to some uncomfortable IM exchanges, which you can find on The Tale of Ned and Ann page, if you’re so inclined.

This was all in November 2008.  Fast forward to May of this year, and this message appeared in our inbox:

Ned or Ann (I don’t know which of them sent any of these messages): Hope u guys r well :)

I decided not to bother replying, I don’t think I even told Veronica about this message at the time.  After 18 months, what would be the point?  Then about 2 weeks ago we got another message from them:

Ned or Ann: how r u ? :)

I figured that it wouldn’t hurt to be polite and respond, so I replied, which lead to this exchange:

Me: Hi guys, We’re doing just fine. How have you been?

Ned or Ann: been doing great! can u open your pics for us again ;)

Me: Really? Why would we want to do that?

Ned or Ann: well we would love to see

Me: you would love to see? It’s been 2 yrs, clearly there’s no desire to get together again, so I don’t really see why we would want to share our private gallery with you again.

We haven’t heard back from them since and honestly, I hope we don’t.

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While I’m talking about swingers stuff, I’m losing my patience with people who have free profiles on Swinglifestyle. Apparently the only picture free members can see is our main public profile picture. Which is very nice picture of Veronica laying on the bed, her ass up in the air, but I guess that’s not enough. Also, we CAN’T give free members access to our private gallery even if we wanted to.

Sunday afternoon I logged on to SLS to copy the messages above from Ned and Ann. I was there for about 10 minutes and 3 different couples initiated a chat with me. First of all, 3 couples in 10 minutes? Where are they coming from, that’s never happened before! Anyway, NONE of them are paid members so right away they’re asking for our e-mail address so we can exchange pictures.

Come on people, don’t be so damn cheap, spend a few bucks and actually pay for a membership. Not only does it make picture sharing easier, making the minor financial investment shows that you’re at least semi-serious about the lifestyle and not just another clown who made up a profile for your own amusement.

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While I’m on a roll…

Saturday afternoon we got e-mails from 2 different couples and from a single guy, all asking the same thing: “Hey, are you guys free tonight?”

Allow me to quote verbatim from the very first part of our profile:

A few things we’d like to establish right up front

- no face pictures, no first date
- no phone conversation between the ladies, no first date
- no single guys
- we have kids and can’t meet on the spur of the moment, we usually need a day or 2 to arrange a sitter

That seems pretty straightforward, right? I liked Veronica’s suggested response so much, that’s what I sent!

Sure, we’ll run out right now, the dog can watch our children… Did you even read our profile?

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The Slow Unicorn

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Nov 052010
 

Several weeks ago we contacted a single woman that we noticed on Swappernet.  Late thirties, decent figure, if a little soft through the middle, and some text in her profile that hinted at an adventurous spirit in the bedroom.  We exchange several messages, face pictures are shared, she and Veronica speak on the phone, and we arrange a date for last night.

(Veronica and I tried something new- rather than passing the computer back and forth and taking turns writing about the date, we chatted on Goggle talk, here is the full text of our conversation)

Veronica: Well baby that date was a bust

me: I’ll say! When did you first think that it might be a code-word type of night?

Veronica: When she took off her coat and I saw the nana-style cardigan, what about you?

me: When she was still outside and I saw her walking towards the restaurant!
My first thought was, uh-oh is that her?

Veronica: I did not get the best look at her walking in. What really sealed the deal was when she talked about the Reiki stuff.

me: Before we talk about that, should we remind our readers what we mean by code word?

Veronica: We should. Readers, we have a rule that if either of us feels that the magic isn’t going to happen, that person utters the ‘code phrase’ which lets the other know.
I think however you jinxed us as you asked about setting up an ‘invite her home’ codeword on the way there

me: Oh sure, blame it on me!

Veronica: Well since things are usually my fault, I figured why not?
This chick was really every bad stereotype of a single woman rolled into one.

me: She was. When we got home, I looked at her profile again. Tell me, does this sound like the woman we met?
38 yrs old, 155-160 lbs, auburn hair (For the reader: She was at least mid-40s, 20 lbs heavier and gray-haired.)

Veronica: Um, no. Her profile also did not mention that she had 5 cats

me: LOL no it didn’t!

Veronica: I was also waiting for you to roll your eyes back into your head when she started talking about sending the ‘bad energy’ into the earth via a running stream.

me: Now I’m pretty open minded, whatever helps you get through the day. But when she started talking about taking other people’s negative energy and releasing it back into the Earth, I wanted to say “are you shitting me?”

Veronica: I know. When we talked on the phone, she mostly talked about her car troubles and her mom, so I thought she was cool and compassionate. But then she mentioned how she buys her mom depends! I think that the phrase ‘depends’ is definetly a cock melter.

me: Yes it is!
I guess we should explain the slow reference in the title
Did she do anything fast, or even at a normal speed?

Veronica: No. And granted we are people who like a faster pace, but she was the slowest eater in the world.

me: Eater? How about all of her movements? Talk about slow and deliberate!

Veronica: I know. That did not come out during the phone call. I am sure that she is probably very thorough, which could be a good thing, but I might have ended up falling asleep before we finished having sex.

me: Anything else we can pick on, or have we said enough?

Veronica: I think we have said enough. I don’t want to be too mean. She was a nice woman.

me: Yes she was. She’s obviously spiritual, in her own unique way, and is dedicated to taking care of her of elderly mother.

Veronica: Yes she was. I am sorry that things did not work out. I had high hopes. Back to the hunt!

me: And in the meantime, we have each other!

Veronica: Yes we do baby! I love you!

me: Alright, before we overwhelm our readers with sweetness, lets wrap this up.

Veronica: Overwhelm- don’t you mean, make them barf

me: LOL yes!
We got a “thanks, hope to see you guys soon” text from her. How are we going to reply?

Veronica: I sent a text telling her we had a lovely evening and sent her a ‘muah’. I will send her an email this weekend letting her know the chemistry just is not there

me: Sounds good to me. Direct without being mean or insulting

Veronica: Exactly. There is no reason to be rude.

And now you know why I tweeted “It’s a code word kind of date” last night!

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Wanton Wednesday- One and Only

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Nov 032010
 

There are many ways that Veronica and I share ourselves with friends and lovers
There is one thing I don’t share with anyone else, she wouldn’t have it any other way
Click-click to see if you can figure out what I’m referring to ;-)

I’m certain that I’m not the only wanton one today, click the button below to see who else is playing along!

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Loss

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Oct 262010
 

She was a fantastic partner for Veronica and I.
Tall, shapely, just a fantastic figure
Determined to make Veronica come before she ever did
Enthusiastic about giving and receiving with both of us
Knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to say so, but also takes direction well
Likes nothing more than to have me come in her mouth
Well, unless she’s insisting that I fuck her ass!
Happily helped Veronica with her first strap-on sex experience
All that she asked was that we videotape our fun for her to share with her Dom

I was browsing the swingers website on night after I returned from Texas and looked for her profile.  She was very generous about posting pics and videos of her adventures and I was curious what she was up to while I was gone.  Her profile was gone though, so I e-mailed her, asking if she was doing alright.  She assured us that she was doing fine and quickly asked when we might be free to get together again.

I mention this to Veronica and ask if she wants to see her again.

She said no.

On 2 other occasions I simply asked “Are you sure?” and she said yes each time, no more play with our unicorn friend.

Veronica did explain to me why she wasn’t interested in playing with her again, the particulars of which aren’t important here.

I didn’t argue or try to change her mind, as much as I loved playing with our friend.  We’ve always maintained a rule that either of us reserves the right to end a relationship, without argument or objection from the other.  This was the first time that it’s happened, and I was happy to oblige her.

I love playing with our various friends.

I love Veronica more, and want nothing more than to keep her happy, it’s as simple as that.

Now we just need to find a new unicorn to join us :-)

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Map of Non-Monogamy

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Oct 252010
 

I first heard about this last week on The Daily Dish, so I found the original source posting, here.

If you click on the image it will open full-size in another window, or click again in the new window to view it at 100%

I tried to find were Veronica and I fall on this map and couldn’t pinpoint just one place.  We have an arrangement when I’m traveling that would fall under the “100 mile rule” section, but descriptions from the “Unicorn” and “Swinging” sections come pretty close to describing our relationship as well.

This just goes to show, there are A LOT of variations on the non-monogamy theme!

Where do you fall, dear reader? Comments are welcome!

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Swinger Profile FAIL!

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Oct 102010
 

I logged into our SLS account the other day to check e-mails and maybe browse around some.  One of the features of the site is a listing at the top of the screen of new members who match our default search criteria.  Here’s what I saw:

I blurred the 2 on the left, this isn’t about them.  But how about those 2 on the right and the identical pictures?  My curiosity gets the better of me and I click on the the sexicpl4202 profile first

Then I looked at the allingoodtime2 profile, created the next day

Let’s examine the differences, shall we?  He’s now 2″ shorter and 15 lbs lighter.  She’s a year older, lost 5 lbs and is now bi and they’ve moved from Marblehead to Salem.  The only picture was the 1 you see here, none of her.  There are also minor, but inconsequential, differences in the descriptions about them and what they’re looking for.

Does anyone really believe that there’s a woman involved here? Only a guy would be this stupid.  I figure some guy took a picture he found on the internet and created these profiles, not realizing that they would end up side-by-side at the time of the home page.

I went back a day later and both profiles were deleted.  Dumbass…

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Conservative Swingers?

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Sep 282010
 

Here is part of a conversation that took place on Twitter on Monday afternoon:

NippleCharms: Can you be a swinger and conservative? I just had some emails and questions. What is everyone’s opinion?

Hubman38: @nipplecharms I have trouble envisioning a “conservative” swinger. Conservative how, though…

NippleCharms: @hubman38 @lordbeazley politically conservative and a swinger sexually. is it possible?

Hubman: @nipplecharms I equate politically conservative with socially/sexually conservative, so I would say no. But maybe I’m wrong…

Hubman: @lordbeazley I can’t think of a single swinger friend who identifies as politically conservative. How about you? @nipplecharms

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What do you think, dear reader, am I wrong to generalize this way?

Here’s what I’m thinking.  When I hear “conservative” I think of an emphasis on a “traditional” family structure, less acceptance of homosexuality and gay marriage, an opposition to abortion, etc.

Anyone see an acceptance of multiple partners, group sex or bi-sexuality in any of that?

Obviously whenever we generalize about a group, there are exceptions that prove us wrong.  But thinking about the swingers that Veronica and I have known, intimately or not, I can’t think of any who I would call “conservative”.  Are some of them fiscally conservative?  Sure, after all, that’s how I would describe myself.  Are some of them advocates of smaller government/less taxes/deregulation, etc?  Again, I can see that.  But conservative on social issues and swingers?  I have trouble envisioning that.

I maintain that the following individual does not exist:
- is a swinger/in an open marriage
- is pro-life
- is anti-gay marriage
- is a devout member of a Judeo-Christian faith

Go ahead, someone prove me wrong, that’s what the comment box is for!

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Profile Pictures

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Sep 072010
 

I’ve decided something, it might shock some of you…

I don’t like seeing everything before I meet someone.

There, I said it, I’d prefer NOT to see naked or mostly-naked pictures of a woman before meeting her!  I realized this just recently, when I met my FWB here in San Antonio.  She contacted me on AFF and enclosed a face picture with her message, since she has no pictures on her profile.  The first time we IM’d we shared some more pictures, but we were both fully dressed in all of them.  I asked and indicated that I would be happy to share more revealing pictures, but she declined my offer.  When we met in a bookstore, all I knew from pictures was that she had a pretty face, a warm smile, and a nice trim figure.

No idea what her tits looked like.  Not a clue how she grooms her lady bits.  Nothing graphic at all.

Much later that night, as I slowly undressed her, there was added excitement as I discovered each inch of her body, an excitement that would have been tempered had I seen more in pictures.

I’m glad she didn’t show me more!

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I have several pictures on my profile, as do Veronica and I on our profiles on swingers sites.  Believe it or not, but I’m actually more selective what I show there than I do for HNT or Wanton Wednesday.  Of course, most of our profile pictures are recycled pictures that you’ve already seen here!  Well, except for the face pictures, you don’t get to see those here ;-)

I’m curious, if you have a profile online somewhere, how much do you show, if anything?  Are you turned off by profiles that are “in your face” with explicit pictures or do you like to see that?  Comments are most welcome!

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